Jefferson Fisher

Wait, they didn't run away.

It's a feeling that can't be replaced when you realize you can be more vulnerable with this person.

You can go deeper with this person.

Think of the people in your life that you're the closest with.

They're the people who've seen your ugly, you know, the hard stuff, the messy stuff.

And when you can have that kind of capacity for each other and communication and conversation, you're only going to grow.

It's the understanding that it's not my job to feel somebody else's feelings for them.

That's what you do when you're afraid to disappoint someone.

You're afraid to say the hard thing, the right thing.

You'd rather be nice.

You'd rather say the thing that sounds good.

Those kind of things always have a bitter taste because you realize, I'm not being real.

I'm not being authentic.

And before you know it, you've just been people pleasing.

Before you know it, you feel less than yourself.

Before you know it, you feel lost and you really don't know who you are.

And now you're in your mid forties and you have a crisis and you go, what is my purpose on life here?

Because I've been living it to serve everybody else's needs, not for what's true and authentic in my life.

Number one, it's a valid fear.

I'm not going to say that that fear isn't valid.