Jefferson Fisher

And that I'll say, no, no, no, no.

This is me time.

This is for me.

And I can imagine the opposite, the passivity or kind of rolling over as being a really unattractive thing.

I think some people's partners...

They're not like that.

Some people are in a relationship where their partner cuts out as much of these things as they possibly can so that they can control their partner.

I mean, I think we've all got a friend in the group chat who seems to have lost all their freedom and their autonomy and agency since they've been in that relationship.

Yeah, they're on a leash.

Like, they can never come to the thing.

Mm-hmm.

That's not okay.

And it appears to be a consequence of boundaries.

Like not...

reinforcing your boundaries early.

It appears to me to be a bit of a slippery slope boundaries.

Do you know what I mean?

Like where you kind of make a concession, and because you've made a concession, they're more likely to pursue another concession.

Right.

And then before you know it, you're behind bars alone.