Jefferson Fisher

There would have been more arguments in the future.

I think I'm slightly traumatized because I think the model that I had of relationships meant that someone can increasingly sort of encroach on your freedom until you are virtually powerless.

Yeah, so I try and fight back, and sometimes I think I overdo it.

And this is one such example where actually, objectively, when I hear myself say, she asked me not to be on my phone in bed, I'm like, well, that's kind of a reasonable request, to be honest.

The bedroom can be a place where we just go on the phones.

I could just do it in my office and then come to bed when I'm ready.

But I think I get my back up because I've just got so many examples of men who didn't stand up for themselves and then were rendered powerless down the line.

So it's like, if I give you this...

And tomorrow you're going to say, maybe I can't be on my phone in the kitchen.

And then maybe I can't be on my phone in the bathroom.

So I just thought, well, if I just stand up for myself here, then I just hold off.

I want to throw in another example that a lot of people relate to.

A lot of men have like a hobby with their guy friends.

Like watching the football, talking shit in the group chat.

I think it's so important to defend those things.

Even for her attraction to you.

Like I think I have no evidence to say that this is true.

It's just a feeling.

I think to some degree that my partner likes the fact that I'll stand up for myself in certain areas.

No doubt.