Jefferson Fisher

So if he was able to say, I'm feeling sad right now, even though his face doesn't say sad, or if he's feeling angry right now and he's not able to express that anger, just saying it is at least giving you more of an idea and comfort because it's actually comforting him knowing that they are sharing this feeling.

They're just having a hard time expressing it.

And three, I would encourage you to take it slow.

Emotions are not things that can just be turned on like a switch as much as we would like them to be.

And so how do you do that?

Some with a lot of patience and knowing that

it's gonna have to be developed.

If there was other questions that I could give you other than what's coming up for you, it would be what emotion can I best help you with?

Or are you feeling emotions right now?

Is there something that you are feeling?

And if he's not able to name it,

It's kind of this, you have to take it baby steps.

And if he's not able to name it, we try to go even deeper.

Maybe it's something that's written down.

Maybe it's something that it's the two of you are together with maybe a couples counselor.

And you're able to say, okay, these are some, this is a muscle that we're trying to work together.

There's not gonna be phrases I can give you that's automatically gonna make him show more emotion.

That's not gonna happen like that.

My phrases are something that I can give you hope in and knowing that it will happen.

It's something that has to have a lot of patience and a lot of, I just don't want you to lose hope.