Jefferson Fisher

They also have like an emotion wheel where you're able to pinpoint different emotions to help express that more.

I would encourage that, not just something he does, but something that both of you do.

So it doesn't mean

and try and pinpoint that he's some problem that you're trying to fix, right?

You don't want to be able to do it to where it's like, he's the project that you have to work on.

That's going to make him feel more emotion.

And I have no clue if what he's feeling is tied up in some type of shame, if it has something to do with his childhood.

Most likely, I'd say it definitely has something to do with his childhood, as a lot of emotional triggers and feelings are, and how to develop that.

So my hope is,

right now is giving you that.

It doesn't mean that emotions aren't there.

It means they just need to be developed more.

So having increasing emotional capacity for that vocabulary is going to help.

Number two, I would encourage you

rather than saying things that criticize him for not expressing his emotions, I would encourage you to use open-ended phrases that would help him kind of go on this fact-finding mission of what exactly he is feeling.

A phrase that we like to use and a phrase that I love to give people is this question, what's coming up for you?

What's coming up for you?

It's a very nonchalant, non-offensive, non-defensive way of saying what's happening inside of you right now.

And I would even say some baby steps to take is see if he can even begin to express his

the feeling without trying to tie it to emoting it.