Jefferson Fisher

Maybe they can't name them.

Maybe they have something within them that is very hard.

There's also people who have what they call like a...

reduced affectivity, meaning if that's a bell curve right upside down, that the extremes are going to cut off.

They have a hard time feeling sadness, and they have a hard time feeling extreme joy.

So they're right there kind of within that middle of ways to work around that.

So I don't know where your husband falls within that bell curve, but what I can tell you is I'm confident that he feels something.

And the issue is he's not expressing that emotion.

And I hear you being a wonderful spouse and saying, hey, what are some things that I can do to create that safe space to make him feel that this is some emotion to try out?

Here's what I would encourage you.

One, have a conversation of whether or not he'd be willing to engage in increasing his emotional vocabulary.

meaning we generally go towards, and we're never taught, that there is more emotions than sad, angry, tired, grumpy, frustrated.

There's all this spectrum of emotional nuance to describe emotion that we aren't using, okay?

To understand that, you know what?

I'm actually feeling, I'm feeling kind of dismissed.

I'm feeling kind of defeated.

I'm feeling...

often, and I can't seem to place my finger on it, but I know I'm generally in this area.

And so one, how do you do that?

There's tons of resources online for ways to develop.