Jefferson Fisher

And, and same for you when you run into situations and you go, Oh, okay.

I see a bump

And my kind of meter of my knowledge of emotional intelligence.

We're always, always learning.

Yes, sir.

I love that you picked up on that.

That brings me so much happiness because I absolutely agree.

Though that section of that chapter to me is by far one of the most potent things you can do for your communication and you're leveling up your leadership.

When it comes to controlling the moment and controlling the pace, they're related to each other.

Think of a time where, let's say you're at the house and you and your wife or your spouse, your husband, y'all are arguing, right?

Then they say something that gets you to want to react in some way.

The faster you go, I mean, the faster you go back and forth,

the less control you have.

But if I slow it down, the more space I've added and the more we've regulated.

That's the power of pauses.

So when you control the pace, that is slowing everything down.

So specifically on pace, what does that mean?

What I teach and prep a lot of my clients for, because I'm sending them to the

to the wolves, really, for people to try and discredit them, hurt their credibility, to call them out as a liar, whatever it is to help the other side's case, is I will continually say, you were the one that controls the pace of the conversation, not them.

Meaning nobody, people listening, hear this, nobody can make you say anything that you don't want to say.