Jefferson Fisher

For example, you can go with distances and weather.

Those are my two favorite.

So what does that mean?

Instead of saying, what's wrong with you?

What's wrong with you?

You're acting like something's wrong.

I could say, you feel really far from me right now.

I'm feeling a distance between this.

I'm feeling like there's,

There's a mile between us and I need to find a way for us to be on the same page.

You see, I didn't say anything about any specificity or about it.

Or like in, you know, if somebody's asking you, how are you feeling?

Rather than having to sift through that, you can say, ah, you know what?

I feel like things are kind of cloudy right now.

I think that things are kind of stormy right now.

You see how it's much easier way to kind of dip your toe into getting them to tell you more.

And so I would encourage you to be someone who, as you already want to be, Dalen, a great leader,

to invite that dialogue i like to say that a good leader responds to conversation a great leader leaves room for it and dalen i think that's exactly what you're wanting to achieve so i think if you begin with this very concrete stuff i'm telling you this because if you invite more conversation if you are encouraging them and using frames and being direct when you need to be direct

I want you to have the mindset that being direct like this is exactly what they want.

Like they want you to be very direct.