Jefferson Fisher

And three, you get their buy-in into the conversation.

It's where you say, does that sound good?

Does that work?

Can we do that?

And they're not.

And that allows you to continue the conversation knowing exactly how you want to frame it up.

So if you and this other person, you feel like y'all are on ice or it's rocky, get really good, Daylon, on speaking that out loud.

So don't let these moments of hidden tension where it's like unvoiced, go unvoiced.

That is a recipe for disaster.

When there's unspoken expectation and unspoken reaction to things, you can tell that there's something in between you.

I want you to say it out loud.

And I'm not saying you have to like read a magic ball and tell what's going on.

It's as simple as saying, I feel like there's something between us right now.

I feel like there's something unspoken.

I feel like there's something more that you want to say.

I feel... Oh, here's a good one, Daylon.

If...

I use this a lot when these kind of edgier moments where you're not really sure how to gauge what the reaction is going to be.

So instead of using really concrete, specific words, I use words that are a little bit more...

Hmm, ubiquitous words that have a little bit more give to them.