Jefferson Fisher

is they use the absolutes, the extremes, when in reality, we both know that's not true.

And really, the other person knows it's not true.

They know it too.

It just feels better to say it, right?

It feels better to use the absolutes.

Let's play it out for a second.

Let's say you and I are in a conversation and I'm in an argument with you and I say,

It is just like, you always say this.

Every time you come in, you always say, you never do anything that I ask.

You never pick up around here.

You never do this.

You never, you always want to be the first to do.

Those words, those absolutes, they create a lot of friction in the conversation because the conversation is no longer about the issue.

It is now about the accuracy.

It's no longer about the thing you were first originally talking about, what's beneath it all.

Instead, it's now about the accuracy of somebody's statement.

That's what happens to your brain when the other person's side, when you use the absolutes, what happens to the other person is they start to go, that's not accurate.

That's not accurate.

I don't always do that.

I don't never do this.