Jefferson Fisher

We're tempted in our default to say things that are going to incite things that are going to prove to them why they're wrong and why we're right. That doesn't work with narcissists. They don't do empathy. They don't do acknowledgement. They don't do accountability. So instead, we're going to use flat, neutral statements. These are statements like noted. That's good to know. Thank you.

Oh, interesting. I don't know. Here, just flat as can be. You can't do anything with those. You can't make something up in them. You can't take it and run with it. You can't twist them. Flat, neutral statements. I love noted. It's one of my favorites. I'm talking to a client.

Oh, interesting. I don't know. Here, just flat as can be. You can't do anything with those. You can't make something up in them. You can't take it and run with it. You can't twist them. Flat, neutral statements. I love noted. It's one of my favorites. I'm talking to a client.

Oh, interesting. I don't know. Here, just flat as can be. You can't do anything with those. You can't make something up in them. You can't take it and run with it. You can't twist them. Flat, neutral statements. I love noted. It's one of my favorites. I'm talking to a client.

When I'm talking to somebody who's an adverse witness and they make some kind of snide comment, and I know we're going to talk about the type of personalities I cross-examine that I consider to be typically very narcissistic in their behavior. If I just say, noted, can't do anything with it. Can't do anything with it. When you have flat neutral statements, you keep them very short.

When I'm talking to somebody who's an adverse witness and they make some kind of snide comment, and I know we're going to talk about the type of personalities I cross-examine that I consider to be typically very narcissistic in their behavior. If I just say, noted, can't do anything with it. Can't do anything with it. When you have flat neutral statements, you keep them very short.

When I'm talking to somebody who's an adverse witness and they make some kind of snide comment, and I know we're going to talk about the type of personalities I cross-examine that I consider to be typically very narcissistic in their behavior. If I just say, noted, can't do anything with it. Can't do anything with it. When you have flat neutral statements, you keep them very short.

You hear how they're very short. They're not long. If you can't keep it to one word, find one word that you like. that you can go to over and over and over and over. Even if it's, okay. You hear how I said that? Okay. It's not like, okay. Okay. Where it's rude or try to have some kind of tone into it. Okay. Flat as can be. So, find a word, very short, very flat, that you can't do anything with.

You hear how they're very short. They're not long. If you can't keep it to one word, find one word that you like. that you can go to over and over and over and over. Even if it's, okay. You hear how I said that? Okay. It's not like, okay. Okay. Where it's rude or try to have some kind of tone into it. Okay. Flat as can be. So, find a word, very short, very flat, that you can't do anything with.

You hear how they're very short. They're not long. If you can't keep it to one word, find one word that you like. that you can go to over and over and over and over. Even if it's, okay. You hear how I said that? Okay. It's not like, okay. Okay. Where it's rude or try to have some kind of tone into it. Okay. Flat as can be. So, find a word, very short, very flat, that you can't do anything with.

Number three. I want you to have this mindset of limited time, limited interaction. This is not the time when you're talking with these kind of people to sit down with your hot tea and say, let's talk it out. I need to express to you all the things that have been boiling up inside me, and I need to empty out my bag with you and help talk about this kind of stuff. Nope, they're not going to do it.

Number three. I want you to have this mindset of limited time, limited interaction. This is not the time when you're talking with these kind of people to sit down with your hot tea and say, let's talk it out. I need to express to you all the things that have been boiling up inside me, and I need to empty out my bag with you and help talk about this kind of stuff. Nope, they're not going to do it.

Number three. I want you to have this mindset of limited time, limited interaction. This is not the time when you're talking with these kind of people to sit down with your hot tea and say, let's talk it out. I need to express to you all the things that have been boiling up inside me, and I need to empty out my bag with you and help talk about this kind of stuff. Nope, they're not going to do it.

They can't. They can't. Understand, they cannot. So when you get in those situations, keep it very limited. Even if it's a time frame, keep the conversations as short as can be. When they start to lash out in different ways, go to your neutral statements, remember the game, and keep it very short. When you try to have a very quick clap back or a comeback, it's not going to work.

They can't. They can't. Understand, they cannot. So when you get in those situations, keep it very limited. Even if it's a time frame, keep the conversations as short as can be. When they start to lash out in different ways, go to your neutral statements, remember the game, and keep it very short. When you try to have a very quick clap back or a comeback, it's not going to work.

They can't. They can't. Understand, they cannot. So when you get in those situations, keep it very limited. Even if it's a time frame, keep the conversations as short as can be. When they start to lash out in different ways, go to your neutral statements, remember the game, and keep it very short. When you try to have a very quick clap back or a comeback, it's not going to work.

It's never going to have the effect that you want it to have. They don't do that kind of stuff. I'm going to tell you right now a tip. that I've used a lot with these type of behaviors in cross-examination. Again, you take it however you want to take it. I can promise you it works. People who exhibit narcissistic behaviors don't care about you. They care about everybody else.

It's never going to have the effect that you want it to have. They don't do that kind of stuff. I'm going to tell you right now a tip. that I've used a lot with these type of behaviors in cross-examination. Again, you take it however you want to take it. I can promise you it works. People who exhibit narcissistic behaviors don't care about you. They care about everybody else.

It's never going to have the effect that you want it to have. They don't do that kind of stuff. I'm going to tell you right now a tip. that I've used a lot with these type of behaviors in cross-examination. Again, you take it however you want to take it. I can promise you it works. People who exhibit narcissistic behaviors don't care about you. They care about everybody else.

Everybody else who they believe is watching them. They don't care about you. They care about the audience, the crowd. This is their stage, after all. Didn't you know? This is their platform. Everybody loves them. Everybody watches them. Their audience, my people. That's what they see in their world. That's why they can't admit when they're wrong. It would hurt the ratings.