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Jefferson Fisher

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The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

between what's happened in the evidence and the law, and show you why, and kind of teach you through it, and also they're just a likable person, that's the kind of expert you want. Well, I was deposing, now this wasn't a deposition, it was a case, a guy, and he was extremely, I mean, I'd already known in the deposition, he was very, very full of himself.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

between what's happened in the evidence and the law, and show you why, and kind of teach you through it, and also they're just a likable person, that's the kind of expert you want. Well, I was deposing, now this wasn't a deposition, it was a case, a guy, and he was extremely, I mean, I'd already known in the deposition, he was very, very full of himself.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

between what's happened in the evidence and the law, and show you why, and kind of teach you through it, and also they're just a likable person, that's the kind of expert you want. Well, I was deposing, now this wasn't a deposition, it was a case, a guy, and he was extremely, I mean, I'd already known in the deposition, he was very, very full of himself.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

So I was asking him questions about my client's injury, talking about the case, and he made this opinion that was... I couldn't even understand how he was making the opinion, but it was about my client's injury, saying that she couldn't have been injured in the car, but yet somebody else who hit them, they had been injured, and he was okay with that.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

So I was asking him questions about my client's injury, talking about the case, and he made this opinion that was... I couldn't even understand how he was making the opinion, but it was about my client's injury, saying that she couldn't have been injured in the car, but yet somebody else who hit them, they had been injured, and he was okay with that.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

So I was asking him questions about my client's injury, talking about the case, and he made this opinion that was... I couldn't even understand how he was making the opinion, but it was about my client's injury, saying that she couldn't have been injured in the car, but yet somebody else who hit them, they had been injured, and he was okay with that.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

Anyway, we started talking, and I asked him a question, something pretty basic, and he said something to the tune of, well, I mean, I would explain it to you, but I don't know if that would really do any good. And the whole jury was like, several of them kind of gasped. They were like, ugh. Their case was done after that. He had hurt the opinion of

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

Anyway, we started talking, and I asked him a question, something pretty basic, and he said something to the tune of, well, I mean, I would explain it to you, but I don't know if that would really do any good. And the whole jury was like, several of them kind of gasped. They were like, ugh. Their case was done after that. He had hurt the opinion of

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

Anyway, we started talking, and I asked him a question, something pretty basic, and he said something to the tune of, well, I mean, I would explain it to you, but I don't know if that would really do any good. And the whole jury was like, several of them kind of gasped. They were like, ugh. Their case was done after that. He had hurt the opinion of

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

the other side pretty bad so so badly that the other attorney and closing argument had to kind of apologize for it and and say well you can't him as a whatever you think of him as a person you understand his opinion here today anyway you got to be careful of those kind of people and the other attorney couldn't really do much about it but it was just a it was a not nice guy who we all knew and the jury knew and the judge knew and

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

the other side pretty bad so so badly that the other attorney and closing argument had to kind of apologize for it and and say well you can't him as a whatever you think of him as a person you understand his opinion here today anyway you got to be careful of those kind of people and the other attorney couldn't really do much about it but it was just a it was a not nice guy who we all knew and the jury knew and the judge knew and

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

the other side pretty bad so so badly that the other attorney and closing argument had to kind of apologize for it and and say well you can't him as a whatever you think of him as a person you understand his opinion here today anyway you got to be careful of those kind of people and the other attorney couldn't really do much about it but it was just a it was a not nice guy who we all knew and the jury knew and the judge knew and

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

Everybody in the courtroom knew he was a narcissistic type of behavior. Now, what did I do in that case? I referred to the jury. He made an opinion, and I said, and you think the jury's going to like this opinion, is what I said. I said, and you think the jury's going to like this opinion. And he almost instantly, you could see he kind of just did the calculation in his head,

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

Everybody in the courtroom knew he was a narcissistic type of behavior. Now, what did I do in that case? I referred to the jury. He made an opinion, and I said, and you think the jury's going to like this opinion, is what I said. I said, and you think the jury's going to like this opinion. And he almost instantly, you could see he kind of just did the calculation in his head,

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

Everybody in the courtroom knew he was a narcissistic type of behavior. Now, what did I do in that case? I referred to the jury. He made an opinion, and I said, and you think the jury's going to like this opinion, is what I said. I said, and you think the jury's going to like this opinion. And he almost instantly, you could see he kind of just did the calculation in his head,

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

And all of a sudden pivoted to say, well, I mean, well, it's not so much about like, you know, what I what I try to do in my experience in my field. And he went on to just talk about himself and see what I did was I talked about the jury. How do you apply this to your own life? They don't care about you. They care about the audience.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

And all of a sudden pivoted to say, well, I mean, well, it's not so much about like, you know, what I what I try to do in my experience in my field. And he went on to just talk about himself and see what I did was I talked about the jury. How do you apply this to your own life? They don't care about you. They care about the audience.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

And all of a sudden pivoted to say, well, I mean, well, it's not so much about like, you know, what I what I try to do in my experience in my field. And he went on to just talk about himself and see what I did was I talked about the jury. How do you apply this to your own life? They don't care about you. They care about the audience.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

When you can say something to the tune of others and people have used this tactic many times. This is what this is how you do it. So let's break it down. somebody says something that's narcissistic, or a narcissist is talking to you and they say something, you respond like this.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap

When you can say something to the tune of others and people have used this tactic many times. This is what this is how you do it. So let's break it down. somebody says something that's narcissistic, or a narcissist is talking to you and they say something, you respond like this.