Jefferson Fisher

And as soon as I get home, and my brain tells me these are lower level things. I don't mean in terms of not a priority. That's not what I mean. I mean some things are not needing to be decided in this moment. And so I just want to push them off because I'm still overstimulated. I haven't come out of work mode. I'm trying to get into dad, husband mode, family mode. And that's tough.

And as soon as I get home, and my brain tells me these are lower level things. I don't mean in terms of not a priority. That's not what I mean. I mean some things are not needing to be decided in this moment. And so I just want to push them off because I'm still overstimulated. I haven't come out of work mode. I'm trying to get into dad, husband mode, family mode. And that's tough.

I don't mean this as just a husband. My wife is a working wife, full-time attorney. She experiences a lot of the same things. If she comes home and I happen to be home first and I'm peppering her, it's the same exact thing where we just go, can we just not? Can we just please? It's very overwhelming in that moment. I'm telling you this, Mac, as hopefully a little bit of insight.

I don't mean this as just a husband. My wife is a working wife, full-time attorney. She experiences a lot of the same things. If she comes home and I happen to be home first and I'm peppering her, it's the same exact thing where we just go, can we just not? Can we just please? It's very overwhelming in that moment. I'm telling you this, Mac, as hopefully a little bit of insight.

I don't mean this as just a husband. My wife is a working wife, full-time attorney. She experiences a lot of the same things. If she comes home and I happen to be home first and I'm peppering her, it's the same exact thing where we just go, can we just not? Can we just please? It's very overwhelming in that moment. I'm telling you this, Mac, as hopefully a little bit of insight.

Maybe some of you who are married or have significant others might be nodding your head a little bit and going, yeah, I understand that. The last thing I want to do when I get home is feel like I have to answer 100 questions when this is this should be the place where my nervous system gets to calm down. This is the place where I don't have to make a decision.

Maybe some of you who are married or have significant others might be nodding your head a little bit and going, yeah, I understand that. The last thing I want to do when I get home is feel like I have to answer 100 questions when this is this should be the place where my nervous system gets to calm down. This is the place where I don't have to make a decision.

Maybe some of you who are married or have significant others might be nodding your head a little bit and going, yeah, I understand that. The last thing I want to do when I get home is feel like I have to answer 100 questions when this is this should be the place where my nervous system gets to calm down. This is the place where I don't have to make a decision.

Can I just please just let me get out of this mode first. So I don't mean to say that you should never ask questions. That's not it, Mac. Timing is very important here. So I'm giving you a little bit of insight to what might be happening or being experienced from your spouse. Now, how do you fix this? How do we flip that? How do you ask the questions? Again, this is what we do in my house.

Can I just please just let me get out of this mode first. So I don't mean to say that you should never ask questions. That's not it, Mac. Timing is very important here. So I'm giving you a little bit of insight to what might be happening or being experienced from your spouse. Now, how do you fix this? How do we flip that? How do you ask the questions? Again, this is what we do in my house.

Can I just please just let me get out of this mode first. So I don't mean to say that you should never ask questions. That's not it, Mac. Timing is very important here. So I'm giving you a little bit of insight to what might be happening or being experienced from your spouse. Now, how do you fix this? How do we flip that? How do you ask the questions? Again, this is what we do in my house.

This does not mean it's what you should do in your house. This is what works. We have a three-question rule. That means after three questions, we're stopping. It can wait. So that means we prioritize the questions, makes us think about the rank of questions as soon as we walk in the door.

This does not mean it's what you should do in your house. This is what works. We have a three-question rule. That means after three questions, we're stopping. It can wait. So that means we prioritize the questions, makes us think about the rank of questions as soon as we walk in the door.

This does not mean it's what you should do in your house. This is what works. We have a three-question rule. That means after three questions, we're stopping. It can wait. So that means we prioritize the questions, makes us think about the rank of questions as soon as we walk in the door.

So if it's not something that's very important, it's something that's going to be pushed off, meaning we're not going to ask more than three questions. And I know in my world, if I get more than three questions, I am ready to... I feel like all of a sudden I'm being avalanched. So that's, that's how it happens. I'll tell you, it helps also to have a routine for me. If I go home,

So if it's not something that's very important, it's something that's going to be pushed off, meaning we're not going to ask more than three questions. And I know in my world, if I get more than three questions, I am ready to... I feel like all of a sudden I'm being avalanched. So that's, that's how it happens. I'll tell you, it helps also to have a routine for me. If I go home,

So if it's not something that's very important, it's something that's going to be pushed off, meaning we're not going to ask more than three questions. And I know in my world, if I get more than three questions, I am ready to... I feel like all of a sudden I'm being avalanched. So that's, that's how it happens. I'll tell you, it helps also to have a routine for me. If I go home,

walk in the door and I change clothes. I hug all my babies and I get out of my work clothes. It doesn't even have to be work clothes. Just get into a different outfit. It helps my mind get more into, okay, I'm home. This is me. I'm not having my phones down. I'm not looking at social media. I'm not thinking about some kind of post. Any of that. It helps me get out of that mindset.

walk in the door and I change clothes. I hug all my babies and I get out of my work clothes. It doesn't even have to be work clothes. Just get into a different outfit. It helps my mind get more into, okay, I'm home. This is me. I'm not having my phones down. I'm not looking at social media. I'm not thinking about some kind of post. Any of that. It helps me get out of that mindset.

walk in the door and I change clothes. I hug all my babies and I get out of my work clothes. It doesn't even have to be work clothes. Just get into a different outfit. It helps my mind get more into, okay, I'm home. This is me. I'm not having my phones down. I'm not looking at social media. I'm not thinking about some kind of post. Any of that. It helps me get out of that mindset.