Jefferson Fisher

Let's be clear about that. So, Mac, this is what... Let me give you first a perspective of what could be happening to your husband. And I'm just saying this from my point of view. Whenever I come in the door, I have finished my day. I'm driving. I get home. Finishing a whole lot of high-level tasks. Tasks that big decisions for my clients, big decisions for me.

big things that I took a lot of processing, a lot of mental energy. Maybe I switched between doing a podcast, dealing with some issue at the office in my law firm, And even switching between tasks, it just drains my battery really quickly. And when I get home and I walk in the door, and if the first thing is questions, like, hey, did you remember to call the plumber?

big things that I took a lot of processing, a lot of mental energy. Maybe I switched between doing a podcast, dealing with some issue at the office in my law firm, And even switching between tasks, it just drains my battery really quickly. And when I get home and I walk in the door, and if the first thing is questions, like, hey, did you remember to call the plumber?

big things that I took a lot of processing, a lot of mental energy. Maybe I switched between doing a podcast, dealing with some issue at the office in my law firm, And even switching between tasks, it just drains my battery really quickly. And when I get home and I walk in the door, and if the first thing is questions, like, hey, did you remember to call the plumber?

Hey, what do you want to do for dinner? What do you want the plane to be for next Saturday? It feels like I am back into decision mode. Let me tell you why. As a husband, this is not Jefferson Communicator guy. This is Jefferson husband. I feel like I am going to fail.

Hey, what do you want to do for dinner? What do you want the plane to be for next Saturday? It feels like I am back into decision mode. Let me tell you why. As a husband, this is not Jefferson Communicator guy. This is Jefferson husband. I feel like I am going to fail.

Hey, what do you want to do for dinner? What do you want the plane to be for next Saturday? It feels like I am back into decision mode. Let me tell you why. As a husband, this is not Jefferson Communicator guy. This is Jefferson husband. I feel like I am going to fail.

my my family in that situation because i'm i'm mentally not there the questions even though i know mac you ask questions that are totally reasonable their normal questions questions that deserve an answer that are necessary or they're just out of curiosity sometimes the questions feel like demands in that moment i'm already overstimulated as soon as i walk in the kids immediately want to wrestle they want to play i have to be in dad mode

my my family in that situation because i'm i'm mentally not there the questions even though i know mac you ask questions that are totally reasonable their normal questions questions that deserve an answer that are necessary or they're just out of curiosity sometimes the questions feel like demands in that moment i'm already overstimulated as soon as i walk in the kids immediately want to wrestle they want to play i have to be in dad mode

my my family in that situation because i'm i'm mentally not there the questions even though i know mac you ask questions that are totally reasonable their normal questions questions that deserve an answer that are necessary or they're just out of curiosity sometimes the questions feel like demands in that moment i'm already overstimulated as soon as i walk in the kids immediately want to wrestle they want to play i have to be in dad mode

And I'm just having a struggle to get out of that mode for a second. And the questions feel like demands. They feel like a pop quiz. And if the answer is I don't know, you know what, I forgot to call this guy. That feels like an exam. I just failed it. I'm getting judgment now that I'm a failure, that I missed it. I should have called him. I meant to call. It didn't happen.

And I'm just having a struggle to get out of that mode for a second. And the questions feel like demands. They feel like a pop quiz. And if the answer is I don't know, you know what, I forgot to call this guy. That feels like an exam. I just failed it. I'm getting judgment now that I'm a failure, that I missed it. I should have called him. I meant to call. It didn't happen.

And I'm just having a struggle to get out of that mode for a second. And the questions feel like demands. They feel like a pop quiz. And if the answer is I don't know, you know what, I forgot to call this guy. That feels like an exam. I just failed it. I'm getting judgment now that I'm a failure, that I missed it. I should have called him. I meant to call. It didn't happen.

No, she's not putting that on me. I'm putting that on me. maybe it's another question about what we want to do next weekend. Now I have to, it feels like an ambush of like, I don't, I don't know the right answer. And so if I, anytime, if it's did you, or what do you want? And I'm having to say, I don't know, that feels like I am not meeting this invisible threshold. Again, that's not there.

No, she's not putting that on me. I'm putting that on me. maybe it's another question about what we want to do next weekend. Now I have to, it feels like an ambush of like, I don't, I don't know the right answer. And so if I, anytime, if it's did you, or what do you want? And I'm having to say, I don't know, that feels like I am not meeting this invisible threshold. Again, that's not there.

No, she's not putting that on me. I'm putting that on me. maybe it's another question about what we want to do next weekend. Now I have to, it feels like an ambush of like, I don't, I don't know the right answer. And so if I, anytime, if it's did you, or what do you want? And I'm having to say, I don't know, that feels like I am not meeting this invisible threshold. Again, that's not there.

It's just all on me. Now, some of you might be listening and go, Jefferson, just get over it. They're just easy questions. Can you just be a grown adult? Yeah, I understand that. I get it. I'm just, I'm being honest with you. And there are times that getting a lot of questions right at home when I've done big level things.

It's just all on me. Now, some of you might be listening and go, Jefferson, just get over it. They're just easy questions. Can you just be a grown adult? Yeah, I understand that. I get it. I'm just, I'm being honest with you. And there are times that getting a lot of questions right at home when I've done big level things.

It's just all on me. Now, some of you might be listening and go, Jefferson, just get over it. They're just easy questions. Can you just be a grown adult? Yeah, I understand that. I get it. I'm just, I'm being honest with you. And there are times that getting a lot of questions right at home when I've done big level things.

And as soon as I get home, and my brain tells me these are lower level things. I don't mean in terms of not a priority. That's not what I mean. I mean some things are not needing to be decided in this moment. And so I just want to push them off because I'm still overstimulated. I haven't come out of work mode. I'm trying to get into dad, husband mode, family mode. And that's tough.