Jefferson Fisher

The key here is quick to fix it.

So what are some ways that we can do that instead if you catch yourself using that?

One is if you catch yourself saying always and never, be the bigger person and grab it back.

If you say always,

catch it and go, actually, not always, a lot of the time, some of the time, most of the time, right?

Catch it.

So, I mean, if you say it out loud of, listen, you never stop yourself when you hear it and go, actually, it's not never, it's a lot.

It feels like a lot to me, right?

If you can catch it and grab it, that's an easy win.

You now don't have to have that second multiverse argument about accuracy, right?

Number two, a quick way is to say, when you, I feel.

It's a framework that works in a lot of different circumstances.

You've heard me on this podcast talk about it.

And it's a framework that works a lot of the time.

It's when you, I feel.

Saying, when you do this, I feel good.

That.

When you X, I feel Y. When you speak to me in that tone, I feel like you're disappointed in me and I'm doing something wrong.

When you leave the food on the counter, I feel like you're asking me to take care of it.

and you're being passive aggressive or whatever it is, when you, I feel.