Jemma Sbeg

But comparing to peers, let alone close friends, is when we really start seeing interpersonal consequences. So I'm talking friends. Drama, tension, fighting, distancing between us and our friends. Honestly though, you are more likely to feel jealous of a friend than a stranger. It's why it is so common.

So there was a 2015 study that found, yes, we are more likely to feel envy when the person we are comparing ourselves to is a similar age, the same gender, has similar values or even physical similarities to us. because it just gives more of a stark contrast to what we don't have. This person is a similar age. This person is our friend. This person maybe went to the same university.

So there was a 2015 study that found, yes, we are more likely to feel envy when the person we are comparing ourselves to is a similar age, the same gender, has similar values or even physical similarities to us. because it just gives more of a stark contrast to what we don't have. This person is a similar age. This person is our friend. This person maybe went to the same university.

So there was a 2015 study that found, yes, we are more likely to feel envy when the person we are comparing ourselves to is a similar age, the same gender, has similar values or even physical similarities to us. because it just gives more of a stark contrast to what we don't have. This person is a similar age. This person is our friend. This person maybe went to the same university.

So much about our situations are similar. So what is it that we don't have in common that is setting our experiences apart? When someone is like us in many ways, it can further highlight what we are lacking and make us feel really terrible. I received this message from someone actually that I think describes this very, very well. She said,

So much about our situations are similar. So what is it that we don't have in common that is setting our experiences apart? When someone is like us in many ways, it can further highlight what we are lacking and make us feel really terrible. I received this message from someone actually that I think describes this very, very well. She said,

So much about our situations are similar. So what is it that we don't have in common that is setting our experiences apart? When someone is like us in many ways, it can further highlight what we are lacking and make us feel really terrible. I received this message from someone actually that I think describes this very, very well. She said,

I honestly I could have written this myself because I was once in your shoes I literally it was my best friend and my roommate got their dream job in the firm that I wanted a job in and I didn't get any bites basically I was unemployed for the summer and I'm gonna admit it I did entirely the wrong thing because I was so insecure and I didn't want to talk to her about it. I shut her out.

I honestly I could have written this myself because I was once in your shoes I literally it was my best friend and my roommate got their dream job in the firm that I wanted a job in and I didn't get any bites basically I was unemployed for the summer and I'm gonna admit it I did entirely the wrong thing because I was so insecure and I didn't want to talk to her about it. I shut her out.

I honestly I could have written this myself because I was once in your shoes I literally it was my best friend and my roommate got their dream job in the firm that I wanted a job in and I didn't get any bites basically I was unemployed for the summer and I'm gonna admit it I did entirely the wrong thing because I was so insecure and I didn't want to talk to her about it. I shut her out.

I distanced myself because her happiness, honestly, it made me feel bad about myself, not because I didn't want her to be happy, but because I wish that I could be happy with her. And the only way I saw that happening was if we were having the same experience. My biggest piece of advice in that situation and what I wish I had done, I wish I had just told her.

I distanced myself because her happiness, honestly, it made me feel bad about myself, not because I didn't want her to be happy, but because I wish that I could be happy with her. And the only way I saw that happening was if we were having the same experience. My biggest piece of advice in that situation and what I wish I had done, I wish I had just told her.

I distanced myself because her happiness, honestly, it made me feel bad about myself, not because I didn't want her to be happy, but because I wish that I could be happy with her. And the only way I saw that happening was if we were having the same experience. My biggest piece of advice in that situation and what I wish I had done, I wish I had just told her.

I wish I had just said, hey, I am really trying to be happy for you. And I'm sure that if I was in your, if our roles were reversed, you would be so much better at this than I am. But just given how horrible I feel right now, I just can't be there with you. I just can't match this level of enthusiasm. So I really think we should just

I wish I had just said, hey, I am really trying to be happy for you. And I'm sure that if I was in your, if our roles were reversed, you would be so much better at this than I am. But just given how horrible I feel right now, I just can't be there with you. I just can't match this level of enthusiasm. So I really think we should just

I wish I had just said, hey, I am really trying to be happy for you. And I'm sure that if I was in your, if our roles were reversed, you would be so much better at this than I am. But just given how horrible I feel right now, I just can't be there with you. I just can't match this level of enthusiasm. So I really think we should just

Have some time to talk about other things before we talk about work. Can we please talk about something that we have in common? Can we talk about something? Can we have more shared experiences so we can go off and talk about those things together? My other piece of advice is to be curious, to be open, to want to learn rather than judge yourself for what you don't have.

Have some time to talk about other things before we talk about work. Can we please talk about something that we have in common? Can we talk about something? Can we have more shared experiences so we can go off and talk about those things together? My other piece of advice is to be curious, to be open, to want to learn rather than judge yourself for what you don't have.

Have some time to talk about other things before we talk about work. Can we please talk about something that we have in common? Can we talk about something? Can we have more shared experiences so we can go off and talk about those things together? My other piece of advice is to be curious, to be open, to want to learn rather than judge yourself for what you don't have.

And just addressing it before you spiral is essential. You know, I always promote repair and honesty in these situations. It does feel more difficult, but it is 100% the path that you never regret. Because you will regret looking back in five years time and saying, wow, that is my best friend. That was my best friend. I really cared about her. How come we don't speak anymore?