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Jemma Sbeg

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
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The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

And just addressing it before you spiral is essential. You know, I always promote repair and honesty in these situations. It does feel more difficult, but it is 100% the path that you never regret. Because you will regret looking back in five years time and saying, wow, that is my best friend. That was my best friend. I really cared about her. How come we don't speak anymore?

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

And just addressing it before you spiral is essential. You know, I always promote repair and honesty in these situations. It does feel more difficult, but it is 100% the path that you never regret. Because you will regret looking back in five years time and saying, wow, that is my best friend. That was my best friend. I really cared about her. How come we don't speak anymore?

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

Oh, oh, it's because I just didn't speak up and say something. Please, please take it from me. Another unspoken consequence of career jealousy is that you end up losing motivation and you become quite discouraged. Jealousy is this weird thing where because we are only focusing on other people, we actually lose focus on our own performance and we start to neglect our own efforts to be better.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

Oh, oh, it's because I just didn't speak up and say something. Please, please take it from me. Another unspoken consequence of career jealousy is that you end up losing motivation and you become quite discouraged. Jealousy is this weird thing where because we are only focusing on other people, we actually lose focus on our own performance and we start to neglect our own efforts to be better.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

Oh, oh, it's because I just didn't speak up and say something. Please, please take it from me. Another unspoken consequence of career jealousy is that you end up losing motivation and you become quite discouraged. Jealousy is this weird thing where because we are only focusing on other people, we actually lose focus on our own performance and we start to neglect our own efforts to be better.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

Specifically, we start to focus on external factors for our lack of success and someone else's success. Typically, that comes down to things like fairness, things like luck, things that we can't control. So essentially what happens when we focus too much on what we don't have in comparison to someone else is that we start shifting from an internal to an external locus of control and

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

Specifically, we start to focus on external factors for our lack of success and someone else's success. Typically, that comes down to things like fairness, things like luck, things that we can't control. So essentially what happens when we focus too much on what we don't have in comparison to someone else is that we start shifting from an internal to an external locus of control and

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

Specifically, we start to focus on external factors for our lack of success and someone else's success. Typically, that comes down to things like fairness, things like luck, things that we can't control. So essentially what happens when we focus too much on what we don't have in comparison to someone else is that we start shifting from an internal to an external locus of control and

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

So this is a psychology term. Essentially, it refers to how we view our problems and our ability to change an outcome or to change a situation. So an internal locus of control, you believe that you are the master of your own destiny. You are the guider of your fate. There are actions that you can take to change what your life looks like and you feel willing to take them.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

So this is a psychology term. Essentially, it refers to how we view our problems and our ability to change an outcome or to change a situation. So an internal locus of control, you believe that you are the master of your own destiny. You are the guider of your fate. There are actions that you can take to change what your life looks like and you feel willing to take them.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

So this is a psychology term. Essentially, it refers to how we view our problems and our ability to change an outcome or to change a situation. So an internal locus of control, you believe that you are the master of your own destiny. You are the guider of your fate. There are actions that you can take to change what your life looks like and you feel willing to take them.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

An external locus of control is where you look at your circumstances and you put it all down to factors that you can't do anything about. So factors like luck, factors like fate, factors like, I don't know, status, money, where you were raised, you know, who you were born as. Those factors do play a role and I'm not going to deny it.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

An external locus of control is where you look at your circumstances and you put it all down to factors that you can't do anything about. So factors like luck, factors like fate, factors like, I don't know, status, money, where you were raised, you know, who you were born as. Those factors do play a role and I'm not going to deny it.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

An external locus of control is where you look at your circumstances and you put it all down to factors that you can't do anything about. So factors like luck, factors like fate, factors like, I don't know, status, money, where you were raised, you know, who you were born as. Those factors do play a role and I'm not going to deny it.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

But when we only focus on those, those are things we can't change. And so our circumstances is something that we can't change. I need you to please stop focusing on the unfairness or the role of luck and start focusing on action. What can you do in this situation? I will say you are allowed to feel kind of bad every now and again. You are allowed to feel frustrated.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

But when we only focus on those, those are things we can't change. And so our circumstances is something that we can't change. I need you to please stop focusing on the unfairness or the role of luck and start focusing on action. What can you do in this situation? I will say you are allowed to feel kind of bad every now and again. You are allowed to feel frustrated.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

But when we only focus on those, those are things we can't change. And so our circumstances is something that we can't change. I need you to please stop focusing on the unfairness or the role of luck and start focusing on action. What can you do in this situation? I will say you are allowed to feel kind of bad every now and again. You are allowed to feel frustrated.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

Don't suppress those emotions entirely, but treat it as an indulgence. Treat it as a treat rather than the whole meal. And when you realize that you have been stuck in a pity spiral for too long, I need you to turn around and say, okay, we need to do more in the opposite direction. We need to do more towards our goal rather than towards despair.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

Don't suppress those emotions entirely, but treat it as an indulgence. Treat it as a treat rather than the whole meal. And when you realize that you have been stuck in a pity spiral for too long, I need you to turn around and say, okay, we need to do more in the opposite direction. We need to do more towards our goal rather than towards despair.

The Psychology of your 20s
279. The psychology of career jealousy

Don't suppress those emotions entirely, but treat it as an indulgence. Treat it as a treat rather than the whole meal. And when you realize that you have been stuck in a pity spiral for too long, I need you to turn around and say, okay, we need to do more in the opposite direction. We need to do more towards our goal rather than towards despair.