Jemma Spike

Do you have a hobby?

Do you have a hobby that you regularly practice, that you genuinely find is a core part of who you are?

Do you have a hobby that has nothing to do with making money?

Nothing to do with how other people see you?

Nothing to do with being online, scrolling or consuming?

Do you have a purely...

self-centered outlet.

It's so easy in our twenties and at any age in this like current media landscape to just be somebody who consumes and consumes and consumes.

And the thing I always say is like, you are what you eat.

You are also the digital and external environment that you create for yourself.

And so if you don't have anything beyond you that feels like

a garden that you can water.

And if you don't have anything beyond you that feels like something that you can pour life and love into, and if it goes bad or if it is bad, it really doesn't matter.

It's just for you.

I do think that you will enter your 30s and enter the rest of your life at a bit of a crisis point because this big hallmark and important part of your identity remains deeply unstable.

The part of your identity that is separate from anything external will remain quite

shaky.

So this is the wake up call and it's a wake up call for me as well.

Really find something that you like doing and get good at it or get good at enjoying it independently, whether other people see worth in it or not.

Get a hobby, basically.