Jen Affleck

Jen, forgive me if this is inaccurate, and I think you shared last time you were here a little bit about your background, but can you remind the audience a little bit more about your childhood?

It seems like you guys have done a lot of work in terms of mending your relationship trauma and hurt that maybe you two have caused each other. I'd love to learn a little bit about what that work looks like and what specifically you guys have been doing to try to save your marriage.

It seems like you guys have done a lot of work in terms of mending your relationship trauma and hurt that maybe you two have caused each other. I'd love to learn a little bit about what that work looks like and what specifically you guys have been doing to try to save your marriage.

It seems like you guys have done a lot of work in terms of mending your relationship trauma and hurt that maybe you two have caused each other. I'd love to learn a little bit about what that work looks like and what specifically you guys have been doing to try to save your marriage.

And by one of us, she means it's always me.

And by one of us, she means it's always me.

And by one of us, she means it's always me.

And it's not worth it. I think as men, we are, you know, that's the language you used, um, pursuer. I think men, you know, that inherent fix it mentality, you know, a little bit more of the logical brain, you know, it's just like, well, that makes no fucking sense. And I want to get to the bottom of it right now.

And it's not worth it. I think as men, we are, you know, that's the language you used, um, pursuer. I think men, you know, that inherent fix it mentality, you know, a little bit more of the logical brain, you know, it's just like, well, that makes no fucking sense. And I want to get to the bottom of it right now.

And it's not worth it. I think as men, we are, you know, that's the language you used, um, pursuer. I think men, you know, that inherent fix it mentality, you know, a little bit more of the logical brain, you know, it's just like, well, that makes no fucking sense. And I want to get to the bottom of it right now.

Yeah, it is. It is something that's really helped. But it's always accurate, right? Because like the way our therapist described it is like once you're arguing for five minutes, you're not arguing from a place of an emotionally regulated adult. You're arguing from the place of whatever child is. that's inside you, whatever trauma you're experiencing. And you're not trying to communicate.

Yeah, it is. It is something that's really helped. But it's always accurate, right? Because like the way our therapist described it is like once you're arguing for five minutes, you're not arguing from a place of an emotionally regulated adult. You're arguing from the place of whatever child is. that's inside you, whatever trauma you're experiencing. And you're not trying to communicate.

Yeah, it is. It is something that's really helped. But it's always accurate, right? Because like the way our therapist described it is like once you're arguing for five minutes, you're not arguing from a place of an emotionally regulated adult. You're arguing from the place of whatever child is. that's inside you, whatever trauma you're experiencing. And you're not trying to communicate.

You're trying to win. You're not trying to be happy. You're trying to be right. And it usually takes that time out, which almost seems silly when, you know, when you're, when our therapist first described, it's like, really, really time out? Really? You want me to really, okay. But it does, it works. You, you calm down and then you start,

You're trying to win. You're not trying to be happy. You're trying to be right. And it usually takes that time out, which almost seems silly when, you know, when you're, when our therapist first described, it's like, really, really time out? Really? You want me to really, okay. But it does, it works. You, you calm down and then you start,

You're trying to win. You're not trying to be happy. You're trying to be right. And it usually takes that time out, which almost seems silly when, you know, when you're, when our therapist first described, it's like, really, really time out? Really? You want me to really, okay. But it does, it works. You, you calm down and then you start,

And like you said, you approach it from a place of coming together, of building back that connection. I mean, I remember, you know, it wasn't until my 40s I learned that lesson. So imagine all the relationships I've had and arguments I've had with past partners and girlfriends where I was like, man, that could have been really useful. You know, so yeah, it's...

And like you said, you approach it from a place of coming together, of building back that connection. I mean, I remember, you know, it wasn't until my 40s I learned that lesson. So imagine all the relationships I've had and arguments I've had with past partners and girlfriends where I was like, man, that could have been really useful. You know, so yeah, it's...

And like you said, you approach it from a place of coming together, of building back that connection. I mean, I remember, you know, it wasn't until my 40s I learned that lesson. So imagine all the relationships I've had and arguments I've had with past partners and girlfriends where I was like, man, that could have been really useful. You know, so yeah, it's...

Well, at this point, you're married, so it's a bit of a gray area, right? For sure. There's a lot of gray areas. In modern times, there's... It's like, is it our money? Is it your money?