Jen Cohen

Is he attracted to you?

Okay, and end of story.

It does help a lot.

It does.

But all of this rhetoric and jargon over like the most basic thing, like all of this stuff, like, oh, he's a narcissist.

Oh, she's an avoidant.

Oh, he's a no contact.

He's pushing and pulling.

I think it's all of this is just another way of saying, you know what?

Like if someone's into you, they're going to want to like be with you and they'll respond to you.

And they're going to text you and they're going to call you.

Like it's just maybe you that they're not interested in.

I heard you on someone else's podcast.

talking about like looking at their like their background like what how they were used to having relationships because someone's used to having long-term relationships they're used to the constant calling and the constant getting together at this weekend and the constant communication but if someone has like never had a relationship and they are only in the hookup mode like you said yeah they don't know what they don't know they're not like you're they're not trained for the for the other way you know what i mean and that's a big problem big cities

So what do people do, by the way, if they do live in a big city and they want a monogamous relationship and they want to find a high-valued person, but the culture and their life doesn't allow for that?

I know.

Like that's because maybe they found the right, they know they have the right person, but they don't have the habit yet.

But not even more, like how do you practice the skills even to get into monogamy?

No, but I do eat a lot like a wild animal.

I just eat a lot of protein and vegetables.