Jennifer Parlamis
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So we have to think about better ways to regulate our anger.
Venting isn't doing it.
Okay?
So this TED conference today is about building bridges.
And when I vented about my husband with the weird stroller pushing that he did,
I wasn't building a bridge between us.
I was actually making more distance between us.
But what does and could build bridges are things that come out of this research that I've talked about today.
Here are four things you can do if you're looking to regulate your anger and then use it to direct it in the appropriate ways.
Engage in low arousal activities.
Check those causal attributions.
So Freud talked about venting the steam.
It's not about that.
It's what's going through the pipe.
Think about those attributions you're making.
Be more conscious of that.
Remember, you might want to gather some new information.
What don't you know?
Ask yourself that question.
And then also, be very deliberate about your actions.