Jennifer Taitz
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first heard Mar 2025
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then that actually just learning those two things, that you can cope with stress and your body is on your side, dramatically helps people, reduces their cortisol, correlates with being able to persist in more challenging goals.
Sure. So there's so many things and this is why I love this topic because different things work for different people. But a couple of first aid things that come to mind, and I love this question, is even, you know, we all get spam emails and we get robo calls and we just ignore them, right? We just hit do not disturb or we...
have a junk sorter that it doesn't even meet our eyes or we don't even lose any focus to it. But oftentimes when we're upset, we fail to realize that we're in our own kind of spam, in the pile of our own spam. We all metaphorically and somewhat literally have different states of mind. And when we're
feeling intense emotions or going through something very difficult, it's human nature to be an emotion mind. An emotion mind is different than reasonable mind. And simply noticing I'm in emotion mind, it's the middle of the night, I woke up, I'm thinking really anxious thoughts rather than getting into the exact anxious thoughts and trying to refute them or distract yourself from them.
Just telling yourself I'm in emotion mind. This is a junk call. This is a spam email. I am just an emotion mind. And then you can kind of more readily untangle rather than trying to like, you know, respond to something that's ridiculous.
So that's one option is calling out emotion mind, which can help people from this noxious habit of getting lost in these ruminations and, you know, telling other people all the things that are going wrong that just makes them feel even more real. Another one that I really like is creating a hope kit. It sounds simple, but literally collecting a few objects that give you a sense of perspective.
If you have a picture of some loved ones or a song that really reminds you of better times or a card someone left you, having a collection of things that widens your focus. So if you get a disappointing email or you learn that something that you worked for didn't happen,
Instead of being narrowly focused in such a painful myopic way on all the things that are going wrong, a broader sense of all the things that are going right. I mean, I could easily, if I worked on something and it didn't, you know, an article or something, and then something, an editor didn't like it, just realizing, okay, I have, you know, beautiful, healthy children.
And that's what actually, of course, there's room to validate. Of course, I'm disappointed. But when our mind plays these tricks on us, like, life's not fair to have kind of a wider perspective and a hope kit can really do that. And there's a lot of research that has found that even for people with cancer or that feel very, very depressed, having a hope kit can actually create real hope.
Oh, Mike, there's so many to choose from. One more is doing the opposite. A lot of times we feel stressed and we act in ways that stress us out further. We feel stressed and we send a grumpy text or we procrastinate or we cancel plans. We decide we just don't have time to see friends for dinner. But a very powerful thing is actually doing what you would do if you felt differently.
A lot of times we wait to feel differently to do differently. But the only way to actually change how you feel is to change how you live. And so if you feel like
sluggish I don't want to go to the gym class today because I'm tired and I'm in a bad mood that you will perpetuate your bad mood by skipping the things that you know generally nourish you and some people try this but don't do it all the way and we need to do this all the way if you're
trying to get some work done, but also checking your email throughout and telling yourself you're going to do a bad job, so why bother? You're not going to be able to actually cross the thing off your list. But I love opposite action.
I think it works all around whether you're feeling grumpy with your spouse and acting in ways that perpetuate feeling grumpy because then they're grumpy towards you and that keeps you in a vicious cycle. But we could all interrupt vicious cycles with virtuous ones by changing our behaviors in more positive directions.
Yeah, and even if you don't immediately feel better, you're setting in motion the steps to start to live better.
you know, emotion mind when we're, our emotions are intense. The limbic system is on fire and we just cannot think clearly. And we really zoom in and we have a hard time with perspective, which is why I like these exercises that just quickly help us see I'm an emotion mind. Let me get some perspective. Let me listen to this podcast rather than focusing on the driver that cut me off.
We get flooded, but people are also incredibly good at getting better in just minutes, like literally minutes. Yeah.
through small things it's like little wheels on a big suitcase you don't need something big outside of yourself you know listening to a song on the radio or um relaxing your face and your grip on the steering wheel can automatically give you a little bit more spaciousness so we we can easily rev ourselves up but we could also choose to reset our minds and bodies and act in ways that help
There are a couple things about that that I like. I like something called worry time, which is when rather than having worry as an all-day ticker in your brain, that's just you're kind of doing something, but there's a lot of energy and space taken up by worries. You could batch your worries and save them for another time. Maybe you write them down for 20 minutes later in the day. So
more of the day you're present and then you have this time to actually sit with them and there's also something called expressive writing which is a specific way of writing with a beginning middle and an end and really going deeper into your feelings a lot of times we're just kind of scratching the surface and not really addressing how we really feel.
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