Jennifer Zamparelli

I feel like my partner just doesn't desire me.

Our sex is good, but I always have to initiate.

Otherwise it wouldn't happen.

I'd love to feel wanted without forcing it.

How do I bring this up?

Could something like low testosterone be a factor?

I'm a woman, he's a man, if that matters.

I suppose if communication, if they've gone this far and they're feeling like this and they haven't said it, and communication is generally a lot of the issues.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Grace, is there baby steps?

Like instead of sitting down, looking at them and saying, you need to make me feel more desirable or, you know, I don't feel like you desire me.

Is there little baby steps they can do before they get to that stage to initiate communication?

How would you feel about if somebody was to write a letter, for example, because they might find that easier because they can get their thoughts down and then, you know, get rid of it.

relationships are hard work aren't they?

Yeah, absolutely.

Okay, here we go.

Here's another one.

Is it normal for sex to feel amazing one day and then just okay the next?

Of course it is.

I mean, I can answer that and I'm no expert.