Jennifer

So I have been married for, oh gosh, eight years and together with my husband for a little longer than that.

And when we first got together, I actually joined him at church kind of, you know, admittedly as a pleasing way to kind of join my way into the family.

And, you know, you're young, you know, you got to get in there.

Not that I don't believe, not that I don't believe, but their church specifically and that specific synod of sorts was very evangelical.

And I found out through experience that that is the absolute pillar of the family, at least in my in-laws' eyes.

My husband grew up that way.

His dad was the principal of the school tied to the church, so he grew up completely educated within the church and, you know, came out onto the side saying, well, you know, I believe, but not for me.

And so a lot of this has caused a lot of schisms in the family, and they kind of come back together, sort of, and

kind of repair and move on.

But the move on is, um, you know, tied together with a lot of grudges.

And so the latest system has lasted about three years.

Um, and it's created a lot of favoritism in the family and it's very evident to now, you know, my nieces and nephews who are all kind of getting aware of what grandma and grandpa like them more than us.

Okay.

So how do I, um,

you know, stand here in the middle.

We don't have any children.

Um, but you know, being surrounded by the whole family where we're on one side and they are on another, how do I, you know, not fix it, but leave the field, leave the field.

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