Jennifer

And I found out through experience that that is the absolute pillar of the family, at least in my in-laws' eyes.

My husband grew up that way.

His dad was the principal of the school tied to the church, so he grew up completely educated within the church and, you know, came out onto the side saying, well, you know, I believe, but not for me.

And so a lot of this has caused a lot of schisms in the family, and they kind of come back together, sort of, and

kind of repair and move on.

But the move on is, um, you know, tied together with a lot of grudges.

And so the latest system has lasted about three years.

Um, and it's created a lot of favoritism in the family and it's very evident to now, you know, my nieces and nephews who are all kind of getting aware of what grandma and grandpa like them more than us.

Okay.

So how do I, um,

you know, stand here in the middle.

We don't have any children.

Um, but you know, being surrounded by the whole family where we're on one side and they are on another, how do I, you know, not fix it, but leave the field, leave the field.

Yes.

Yes.

Yeah.

Yeah, and funny enough, you know, joining his family, their family to me was the stable ones.

I came from a really chaotic family, you know, drugs and alcohol abuse and, you know, emotional neglect and all of that kind of stuff.

And so seeing his family, you know, in my eyes, looked on the outside very stable.

Indeed.