Jerry

You didn't ask.

Okay.

Let's go to the next one.

What number are we on now there, Guide?

Number four.

I think you guys better go to a couples therapy very quickly and identify your concerns because this does not seem like it's something that's set up to change.

So if you're not on board this for your life and you didn't recognize this before you said, I do, then early enough, you need to say, I don't.

This is the time to make these choices because this is what I, some people just don't realize what you see is what you get.

Don't just don't put blinders on and not recognize it.

So this is not the lifestyle that you want for the rest of your life.

This is the time to recognize it and nip it in the bud right off the bat.

And it's not like you're trying to say, honey, I don't want you to have your family.

But you said it yourself, we need boundaries.

And I don't know, this is the only way you're going to find out if it's possible.

And that he doesn't, you know, get, you know, bitter that you said it.

But he recognizes it himself and says, you know, I, you know, I think you're right.

But he may not even see it because he's been so, it's been, it's, it's been such a factor all their life.

And I mean, there are some people that have these family units and jobs and businesses and stuff, and they're so enmeshed.

And it's not that it's bad.

It just might be bad for you.