Jessamyn

Don't be rude to anybody, but it's a very specific thing when you are intentionally rude or dismissive to somebody that's serving your food or serving your drinks or just working.

Don't be rude to anybody, but it's a very specific thing when you are intentionally rude or dismissive to somebody that's serving your food or serving your drinks or just working.

it there's a power imbalance that's kind of set up there yeah and it just immediately communicates this like if someone's going to be this easily dismissive or rude yeah a complete stranger how are they going to treat somebody that they know that's a great tip a woman notices if you're rude to the hired help yeah like i verbally assaulted my butler this morning and i felt so bad afterwards yeah your butler

it there's a power imbalance that's kind of set up there yeah and it just immediately communicates this like if someone's going to be this easily dismissive or rude yeah a complete stranger how are they going to treat somebody that they know that's a great tip a woman notices if you're rude to the hired help yeah like i verbally assaulted my butler this morning and i felt so bad afterwards yeah your butler

it there's a power imbalance that's kind of set up there yeah and it just immediately communicates this like if someone's going to be this easily dismissive or rude yeah a complete stranger how are they going to treat somebody that they know that's a great tip a woman notices if you're rude to the hired help yeah like i verbally assaulted my butler this morning and i felt so bad afterwards yeah your butler

Pet names. So calling, like using like kind of common, you know, maybe in like the banter that you have before the date, you can jokingly come up with a nickname like Shmoopy. Right. But things like hun or sweetie or sweetheart or babe. One, it kind of like communicates the familiarity that she might not be ready for, especially considering she's just met you.

Pet names. So calling, like using like kind of common, you know, maybe in like the banter that you have before the date, you can jokingly come up with a nickname like Shmoopy. Right. But things like hun or sweetie or sweetheart or babe. One, it kind of like communicates the familiarity that she might not be ready for, especially considering she's just met you.

Pet names. So calling, like using like kind of common, you know, maybe in like the banter that you have before the date, you can jokingly come up with a nickname like Shmoopy. Right. But things like hun or sweetie or sweetheart or babe. One, it kind of like communicates the familiarity that she might not be ready for, especially considering she's just met you.

Another thing is like, like sweetie, sweetheart, hon. Like those are things that if I'm getting like cat called on the street, that's what guys call me. Or like when I was working as a server a million years ago, they'd be like, hey, sweetheart. Like it just has, you run the risk of it having this really crappy negative connotation. And it's just a little too familiar. So just avoid it.

Another thing is like, like sweetie, sweetheart, hon. Like those are things that if I'm getting like cat called on the street, that's what guys call me. Or like when I was working as a server a million years ago, they'd be like, hey, sweetheart. Like it just has, you run the risk of it having this really crappy negative connotation. And it's just a little too familiar. So just avoid it.

Another thing is like, like sweetie, sweetheart, hon. Like those are things that if I'm getting like cat called on the street, that's what guys call me. Or like when I was working as a server a million years ago, they'd be like, hey, sweetheart. Like it just has, you run the risk of it having this really crappy negative connotation. And it's just a little too familiar. So just avoid it.

Best, best option. There's a very small chance that she's like, Oh, he didn't call me baby the first time we met. So it's a no go. Just you're better off just avoiding it.

Best, best option. There's a very small chance that she's like, Oh, he didn't call me baby the first time we met. So it's a no go. Just you're better off just avoiding it.

Best, best option. There's a very small chance that she's like, Oh, he didn't call me baby the first time we met. So it's a no go. Just you're better off just avoiding it.

There's a difference between sharing your interests and just going on a full-on rant or... going like off the rails. So like being like bitter or negative about something. So like I put on my profile pretty clearly, I hate hiking.

There's a difference between sharing your interests and just going on a full-on rant or... going like off the rails. So like being like bitter or negative about something. So like I put on my profile pretty clearly, I hate hiking.

There's a difference between sharing your interests and just going on a full-on rant or... going like off the rails. So like being like bitter or negative about something. So like I put on my profile pretty clearly, I hate hiking.

Exactly. It was kind of something that I put out there. And you could have said like, oh, I love hiking. Like, well, maybe, you know, I can take, like you could have, if you did like hiking, you could have like spun it and it could have like generated conversation. We connected on like hating hiking, whatever.

Exactly. It was kind of something that I put out there. And you could have said like, oh, I love hiking. Like, well, maybe, you know, I can take, like you could have, if you did like hiking, you could have like spun it and it could have like generated conversation. We connected on like hating hiking, whatever.

Exactly. It was kind of something that I put out there. And you could have said like, oh, I love hiking. Like, well, maybe, you know, I can take, like you could have, if you did like hiking, you could have like spun it and it could have like generated conversation. We connected on like hating hiking, whatever.