Jessica Mizzi

It's kind of like there's two parts to it.

It's like you don't want to live the life in the sense that you know how terrible it can be.

Like, say my relationship or me and Dora, none of us have had cancer yet, so we know, right?

Or the cancer experience like Dan has had.

And so we don't live...

I mean, we probably should, but we're not as on edge about us getting it because we haven't lived it like you guys have.

Do you know what I mean?

Like, we all worry that one of us is going to have cancer.

The fact that two years on, it's still very, very, very hard.

Yeah, I think people would...

yeah like some people would from the outside some people yeah might think like he's home he's healthy he's good like but most people especially those that know you and listen to this podcast maybe appreciate that it's totally different totally different and always will be and you yeah it's a complete different life I think about single parents that have split up as well

Yeah.

What do you think you are?

Secure, anxious, avoidant, dismissive, or avoidant, fearful.

So those are the four that I've found.

yeah secure is comfortable with intimacy and slash dependence communicates easily leads with cooperative and flexible behavior anxious but i'm anxious anxious has no sensitive nervous system struggles communicating needs directly tends to act out when triggered that's me big time avoidant dismissive downplays importance of relationships is usually extremely self-reliant can become more vulnerable when there's a big crisis

Well, that's good to have that awareness, I think.

Yeah, and it's like there's a lot of chat if you – there's a lot of chat prior to this stage.

There's so much chat about when in the throes of young children, making time for your partner.

But actually, like, it should be chat around that for this stage too.