Jillian Turecki

What's happening in a relationship when it's going well? Well, the story in everyone's head is filled with a lot of positive meaning and positivity and love. The relationship that's not going well, it's two brains that are creating a lot of stories. I mean, of course, there's other reasons that a relationship's not going well. There's very, very extreme circumstances that could happen.

But on the average, that's what's happening. And let's take this out of the context of relationships. It's like you can relate it to business or anything else. I mean, how many times have you like laid in bed at night replaying something in your mind or replaying something in the morning and you've created like... a whole story about what they did, what they thought, and why they did that.

But on the average, that's what's happening. And let's take this out of the context of relationships. It's like you can relate it to business or anything else. I mean, how many times have you like laid in bed at night replaying something in your mind or replaying something in the morning and you've created like... a whole story about what they did, what they thought, and why they did that.

But on the average, that's what's happening. And let's take this out of the context of relationships. It's like you can relate it to business or anything else. I mean, how many times have you like laid in bed at night replaying something in your mind or replaying something in the morning and you've created like... a whole story about what they did, what they thought, and why they did that.

And you get yourself all worked up and you get yourself in such a state that And it was all in your head. And I think part of maturing is being able to catch ourselves in those thoughts and just being able to say, okay, I'm not thinking clearly right now. My mind is messy right now. And so

And you get yourself all worked up and you get yourself in such a state that And it was all in your head. And I think part of maturing is being able to catch ourselves in those thoughts and just being able to say, okay, I'm not thinking clearly right now. My mind is messy right now. And so

And you get yourself all worked up and you get yourself in such a state that And it was all in your head. And I think part of maturing is being able to catch ourselves in those thoughts and just being able to say, okay, I'm not thinking clearly right now. My mind is messy right now. And so

This was something that I never learned until I started doing this work, which is that the story that we assign to anything determines how we feel about anything and that our minds are designed to keep us safe. They're not designed to make us happy. And so we have to be able to discipline our minds and question our thoughts often.

This was something that I never learned until I started doing this work, which is that the story that we assign to anything determines how we feel about anything and that our minds are designed to keep us safe. They're not designed to make us happy. And so we have to be able to discipline our minds and question our thoughts often.

This was something that I never learned until I started doing this work, which is that the story that we assign to anything determines how we feel about anything and that our minds are designed to keep us safe. They're not designed to make us happy. And so we have to be able to discipline our minds and question our thoughts often.

This is the whole idea of mindfulness, like bringing mindfulness into your life or bringing mindfulness to your relationship is good.

This is the whole idea of mindfulness, like bringing mindfulness into your life or bringing mindfulness to your relationship is good.

This is the whole idea of mindfulness, like bringing mindfulness into your life or bringing mindfulness to your relationship is good.

bringing more awareness awareness of how our thoughts can get the better of us um how our stories and the meanings that we assign to certain things well if he loved me then or if she loved me then you know that's that's a big one um i know you meant to do this or you know you wouldn't have said that if you didn't do that or if you didn't feel that these are the things that um you know

bringing more awareness awareness of how our thoughts can get the better of us um how our stories and the meanings that we assign to certain things well if he loved me then or if she loved me then you know that's that's a big one um i know you meant to do this or you know you wouldn't have said that if you didn't do that or if you didn't feel that these are the things that um you know

bringing more awareness awareness of how our thoughts can get the better of us um how our stories and the meanings that we assign to certain things well if he loved me then or if she loved me then you know that's that's a big one um i know you meant to do this or you know you wouldn't have said that if you didn't do that or if you didn't feel that these are the things that um you know

that can really, really destroy a relationship and destroy our experience of a relationship.

that can really, really destroy a relationship and destroy our experience of a relationship.

that can really, really destroy a relationship and destroy our experience of a relationship.

You have a relationship with the story that you have.