Jillian Turecki

So it wasn't like, oh, I'm going to not tell the truth on purpose. But every time people are strategizing to get someone to be interested in them, the mask, the ambassador of ourselves, Um, people don't tell the truth because they're having a hard time processing something or they're just so afraid.

So it wasn't like, oh, I'm going to not tell the truth on purpose. But every time people are strategizing to get someone to be interested in them, the mask, the ambassador of ourselves, Um, people don't tell the truth because they're having a hard time processing something or they're just so afraid.

If I say what I feel, she's going to be so hurt and she's going to leave me or he's not, or he's going to become so defensive and not be able to have a conversation with me. So I'm going to bottle it up and I'm just going to be easy. Or I'm just going to repress how I feel because, you know, who am I to have feelings? Who am I to have needs?

If I say what I feel, she's going to be so hurt and she's going to leave me or he's not, or he's going to become so defensive and not be able to have a conversation with me. So I'm going to bottle it up and I'm just going to be easy. Or I'm just going to repress how I feel because, you know, who am I to have feelings? Who am I to have needs?

If I say what I feel, she's going to be so hurt and she's going to leave me or he's not, or he's going to become so defensive and not be able to have a conversation with me. So I'm going to bottle it up and I'm just going to be easy. Or I'm just going to repress how I feel because, you know, who am I to have feelings? Who am I to have needs?

So people aren't doing this consciously and they're not necessarily doing it on purpose. They're doing it because they don't know the alternative.

So people aren't doing this consciously and they're not necessarily doing it on purpose. They're doing it because they don't know the alternative.

So people aren't doing this consciously and they're not necessarily doing it on purpose. They're doing it because they don't know the alternative.

Well, one, by recognizing that the alternative is worse. By not speaking the truth, you become resentful. By not speaking the truth, your relationship deteriorates. By not speaking the truth, you betray yourself. And by not speaking the truth, in many ways, you betray your partner because then they don't know how to contribute to your happiness.

Well, one, by recognizing that the alternative is worse. By not speaking the truth, you become resentful. By not speaking the truth, your relationship deteriorates. By not speaking the truth, you betray yourself. And by not speaking the truth, in many ways, you betray your partner because then they don't know how to contribute to your happiness.

Well, one, by recognizing that the alternative is worse. By not speaking the truth, you become resentful. By not speaking the truth, your relationship deteriorates. By not speaking the truth, you betray yourself. And by not speaking the truth, in many ways, you betray your partner because then they don't know how to contribute to your happiness.

They don't know how to contribute to the emotional bank account of your relationships. So there's a very big price to pay and not speaking the truth. And the way to do it is to be direct and truthful and also, you know, sometimes you'll have to be very vulnerable sometimes. I, I, I'm not into the whole stoic thing. You know, it's not about being stoic.

They don't know how to contribute to the emotional bank account of your relationships. So there's a very big price to pay and not speaking the truth. And the way to do it is to be direct and truthful and also, you know, sometimes you'll have to be very vulnerable sometimes. I, I, I'm not into the whole stoic thing. You know, it's not about being stoic.

They don't know how to contribute to the emotional bank account of your relationships. So there's a very big price to pay and not speaking the truth. And the way to do it is to be direct and truthful and also, you know, sometimes you'll have to be very vulnerable sometimes. I, I, I'm not into the whole stoic thing. You know, it's not about being stoic.

Um, no one, you know, in a romantic relationship, stoic doesn't get you very far. Vulnerability gets you far.

Um, no one, you know, in a romantic relationship, stoic doesn't get you very far. Vulnerability gets you far.

Um, no one, you know, in a romantic relationship, stoic doesn't get you very far. Vulnerability gets you far.

Well, not when it comes to difficult conversations. I mean, it has a place, you know, when you have to make a decision about something. Sometimes bringing that to a relationship can be very useful, you know. But when it comes to difficult conversations about feelings and about needs, you have to be able to... People bond.

Well, not when it comes to difficult conversations. I mean, it has a place, you know, when you have to make a decision about something. Sometimes bringing that to a relationship can be very useful, you know. But when it comes to difficult conversations about feelings and about needs, you have to be able to... People bond.

Well, not when it comes to difficult conversations. I mean, it has a place, you know, when you have to make a decision about something. Sometimes bringing that to a relationship can be very useful, you know. But when it comes to difficult conversations about feelings and about needs, you have to be able to... People bond.