Jillian Turecki

understanding that you have work to do and there are things that you can improve on and quite possibly absolutely need to improve on. And yet that doesn't diminish your value as a human being in any way. That doesn't diminish your worth. And self-acceptance is learning to hold ourselves in high enough regard even though there are things about ourselves that we may not like.

Self-esteem is critical for a relationship. If it's too high, you have the narcissist. But in my world, what I see a lot more of is too low. And if it's too low, then you are pretending to be someone who you're not, running away from intimacy, tolerating abusive or borderline abusive behavior. So it is a very important conversation to be had.

Self-esteem is critical for a relationship. If it's too high, you have the narcissist. But in my world, what I see a lot more of is too low. And if it's too low, then you are pretending to be someone who you're not, running away from intimacy, tolerating abusive or borderline abusive behavior. So it is a very important conversation to be had.

Self-esteem is critical for a relationship. If it's too high, you have the narcissist. But in my world, what I see a lot more of is too low. And if it's too low, then you are pretending to be someone who you're not, running away from intimacy, tolerating abusive or borderline abusive behavior. So it is a very important conversation to be had.

Yeah, it's not an easy answer. I believe that the best relationships involve people who have a strong sense of self, but that doesn't mean that they don't have parts of them that are wounded. But we can't get into a relationship and expect another flawed person to put all the pieces back together.

Yeah, it's not an easy answer. I believe that the best relationships involve people who have a strong sense of self, but that doesn't mean that they don't have parts of them that are wounded. But we can't get into a relationship and expect another flawed person to put all the pieces back together.

Yeah, it's not an easy answer. I believe that the best relationships involve people who have a strong sense of self, but that doesn't mean that they don't have parts of them that are wounded. But we can't get into a relationship and expect another flawed person to put all the pieces back together.

But I do believe that we can get into a relationship with the expectation that we are going to hold each other's hands and help each other out as we face our own demons and we face our own challenges. And so, look, there's a difference between someone...

But I do believe that we can get into a relationship with the expectation that we are going to hold each other's hands and help each other out as we face our own demons and we face our own challenges. And so, look, there's a difference between someone...

But I do believe that we can get into a relationship with the expectation that we are going to hold each other's hands and help each other out as we face our own demons and we face our own challenges. And so, look, there's a difference between someone...

needing to be built up by their partner all the time because they don't do anything, because they're not doing that thing that they need to be doing to help themselves versus someone who's going through a really rough, just having a rocky month and needing their partner to kind of be like their greatest fan in that moment. So context matters.

needing to be built up by their partner all the time because they don't do anything, because they're not doing that thing that they need to be doing to help themselves versus someone who's going through a really rough, just having a rocky month and needing their partner to kind of be like their greatest fan in that moment. So context matters.

needing to be built up by their partner all the time because they don't do anything, because they're not doing that thing that they need to be doing to help themselves versus someone who's going through a really rough, just having a rocky month and needing their partner to kind of be like their greatest fan in that moment. So context matters.

And I know that that's not popular because so many people want the black or white answer and they want the like how to, but there's nuance here. But know that no one can actually fill all your voids.

And I know that that's not popular because so many people want the black or white answer and they want the like how to, but there's nuance here. But know that no one can actually fill all your voids.

And I know that that's not popular because so many people want the black or white answer and they want the like how to, but there's nuance here. But know that no one can actually fill all your voids.

Yes. I've lied a lot in my relationships. And what I mean by lied is I don't think of myself as a liar. I don't lie. I don't say something that isn't true. But I haven't divulged the whole truth of what I was feeling in the past. Because number one, I didn't even know that it was okay to have those needs. I didn't know how to express those needs. I was so disconnected from that.

Yes. I've lied a lot in my relationships. And what I mean by lied is I don't think of myself as a liar. I don't lie. I don't say something that isn't true. But I haven't divulged the whole truth of what I was feeling in the past. Because number one, I didn't even know that it was okay to have those needs. I didn't know how to express those needs. I was so disconnected from that.

Yes. I've lied a lot in my relationships. And what I mean by lied is I don't think of myself as a liar. I don't lie. I don't say something that isn't true. But I haven't divulged the whole truth of what I was feeling in the past. Because number one, I didn't even know that it was okay to have those needs. I didn't know how to express those needs. I was so disconnected from that.

So it wasn't like, oh, I'm going to not tell the truth on purpose. But every time people are strategizing to get someone to be interested in them, the mask, the ambassador of ourselves, Um, people don't tell the truth because they're having a hard time processing something or they're just so afraid.