Jillian Turecki

have this fantasy that when this right person comes into our lives, everything's going to be better. Or when our partner is not able to, it's just not making us feel all delightful and happy one day, that somehow it's their responsibility to do that. fulfillment can only come from the inside.

We get fulfillment and happiness from various sources and from doing various things, but there's no one who is coming. There's no knight in shining armor. There's no one who's coming to to save you. And look, we've seen so many movies. There's a movie that I reference in the book because I think it is so perfect.

We get fulfillment and happiness from various sources and from doing various things, but there's no one who is coming. There's no knight in shining armor. There's no one who's coming to to save you. And look, we've seen so many movies. There's a movie that I reference in the book because I think it is so perfect.

We get fulfillment and happiness from various sources and from doing various things, but there's no one who is coming. There's no knight in shining armor. There's no one who's coming to to save you. And look, we've seen so many movies. There's a movie that I reference in the book because I think it is so perfect.

And it's interesting because it's a guy expecting to be rescued, which I think goes against what's more commonly thought about as like the woman in the damsel in distress. I don't know if you ever saw the movie 500 Days of Summer. No. It's a fantastic movie that really incredibly illustrates this point, which is he's a guy, he's totally depressed. He's got no purpose in life. He hates his job.

And it's interesting because it's a guy expecting to be rescued, which I think goes against what's more commonly thought about as like the woman in the damsel in distress. I don't know if you ever saw the movie 500 Days of Summer. No. It's a fantastic movie that really incredibly illustrates this point, which is he's a guy, he's totally depressed. He's got no purpose in life. He hates his job.

And it's interesting because it's a guy expecting to be rescued, which I think goes against what's more commonly thought about as like the woman in the damsel in distress. I don't know if you ever saw the movie 500 Days of Summer. No. It's a fantastic movie that really incredibly illustrates this point, which is he's a guy, he's totally depressed. He's got no purpose in life. He hates his job.

He has a passion that he's not pursuing. And so he's in this job that he can't stand. And then this girl comes in and she's like,

He has a passion that he's not pursuing. And so he's in this job that he can't stand. And then this girl comes in and she's like,

He has a passion that he's not pursuing. And so he's in this job that he can't stand. And then this girl comes in and she's like,

you know beautiful and cute and he's just like from the moment he sees her he's just like he's done right and so his whole the whole movie is him trying to convince her to love him because she's just not that she's like dates him and sleeps with him but she's just you can tell she's not all in And on the surface, what it looks like is, oh, something's wrong with her. She's totally avoidant.

you know beautiful and cute and he's just like from the moment he sees her he's just like he's done right and so his whole the whole movie is him trying to convince her to love him because she's just not that she's like dates him and sleeps with him but she's just you can tell she's not all in And on the surface, what it looks like is, oh, something's wrong with her. She's totally avoidant.

you know beautiful and cute and he's just like from the moment he sees her he's just like he's done right and so his whole the whole movie is him trying to convince her to love him because she's just not that she's like dates him and sleeps with him but she's just you can tell she's not all in And on the surface, what it looks like is, oh, something's wrong with her. She's totally avoidant.

You know, what's wrong with her? You know, he's such a nice guy. And what's really going on is that she's not even a fully formed character. She's a metaphor for him needing to be rescued. Because then, and what she does is she mirrors back to him why she doesn't choose him. She never says it. But of course, the reason is, is because he's desperate for his happiness in her.

You know, what's wrong with her? You know, he's such a nice guy. And what's really going on is that she's not even a fully formed character. She's a metaphor for him needing to be rescued. Because then, and what she does is she mirrors back to him why she doesn't choose him. She never says it. But of course, the reason is, is because he's desperate for his happiness in her.

You know, what's wrong with her? You know, he's such a nice guy. And what's really going on is that she's not even a fully formed character. She's a metaphor for him needing to be rescued. Because then, and what she does is she mirrors back to him why she doesn't choose him. She never says it. But of course, the reason is, is because he's desperate for his happiness in her.

And he's desperate to use her. He's the user. He's using her to escape his own misery. And it's only after she breaks up with him that he is able to actually confront himself. And so... It's a great movie to watch that illustrates the point that we do try to escape ourselves through relationships. That could be someone's pattern that's more than someone else's pattern.

And he's desperate to use her. He's the user. He's using her to escape his own misery. And it's only after she breaks up with him that he is able to actually confront himself. And so... It's a great movie to watch that illustrates the point that we do try to escape ourselves through relationships. That could be someone's pattern that's more than someone else's pattern.

And he's desperate to use her. He's the user. He's using her to escape his own misery. And it's only after she breaks up with him that he is able to actually confront himself. And so... It's a great movie to watch that illustrates the point that we do try to escape ourselves through relationships. That could be someone's pattern that's more than someone else's pattern.

A relationship can't actually make you happy. No one can really make you happy. But the expectation, the healthy expectation is this person is adding to my life. They're making my path a little better, but no one can walk the path but me.