Jillian Turecki

Best of luck with your book.

Best of luck with your book.

Best of luck with your book.

I really couldn't.

I really couldn't.

I really couldn't.

No, definitely not. I mean, I think we need to define broken, but one of the most valuable things that we can bring to a relationship is a sense of self. And that does not mean that you love everything about you. It just means that you have an idea of who you are and who you want to be and that you have a belief that

No, definitely not. I mean, I think we need to define broken, but one of the most valuable things that we can bring to a relationship is a sense of self. And that does not mean that you love everything about you. It just means that you have an idea of who you are and who you want to be and that you have a belief that

In spite of the fact that you are not perfect and there are parts of you that are difficult, because everyone has difficult parts, you are still intrinsically worthy of being loved. And I think that we would do ourselves all a big service if we just were just upfront about the ways that we were difficult. Like, hey, this is how I'm difficult. This is what you're going to have to live with.

In spite of the fact that you are not perfect and there are parts of you that are difficult, because everyone has difficult parts, you are still intrinsically worthy of being loved. And I think that we would do ourselves all a big service if we just were just upfront about the ways that we were difficult. Like, hey, this is how I'm difficult. This is what you're going to have to live with.

Very upfront. So to people who have no sense of self, here's what I prefer to kind of frame it. If you believe that another person is responsible for your happiness, if you believe that, you know, Eric Fromm said this perfectly and I'm paraphrasing here. You want to need someone because you love them, not love them because you need them.

Very upfront. So to people who have no sense of self, here's what I prefer to kind of frame it. If you believe that another person is responsible for your happiness, if you believe that, you know, Eric Fromm said this perfectly and I'm paraphrasing here. You want to need someone because you love them, not love them because you need them.

The quote unquote broken person is looking for someone to fill up that emptiness inside of them. They don't know who they are. They don't have any sense really of themselves. They don't have any meaning in their life. And so they're looking for love in all the wrong people because that's typically what happens.

The quote unquote broken person is looking for someone to fill up that emptiness inside of them. They don't know who they are. They don't have any sense really of themselves. They don't have any meaning in their life. And so they're looking for love in all the wrong people because that's typically what happens.

And they're looking for love in all the wrong people and they're looking for someone to fill them up. They're looking for someone because they don't know how to fulfill their own needs. They don't know how to have some meaning in life.

And they're looking for love in all the wrong people and they're looking for someone to fill them up. They're looking for someone because they don't know how to fulfill their own needs. They don't know how to have some meaning in life.

And that doesn't mean that person can actually be sad and unhappy sometimes, but they have a sense of meaning in their life and a sense of purpose in their life, whatever that is. And so people who are broken have no... They have no idea what gives their lives meaning. They are very divorced from their bodies. They're not connected to their body. Maybe there's just a lot of trauma there.

And that doesn't mean that person can actually be sad and unhappy sometimes, but they have a sense of meaning in their life and a sense of purpose in their life, whatever that is. And so people who are broken have no... They have no idea what gives their lives meaning. They are very divorced from their bodies. They're not connected to their body. Maybe there's just a lot of trauma there.

Maybe there's just a lot of anxiety there. Maybe there's just a lot of, well, I've been taught that another person is supposed to complete me. So I haven't been spending time developing my self with a capital S because that's what another person is supposed to do. So trauma plays a big role, but also belief system plays a really big role in that. So you have one person.

Maybe there's just a lot of anxiety there. Maybe there's just a lot of, well, I've been taught that another person is supposed to complete me. So I haven't been spending time developing my self with a capital S because that's what another person is supposed to do. So trauma plays a big role, but also belief system plays a really big role in that. So you have one person.