Jillian Turecki

even one person, two people getting in a relationship like that, what you're going to find is what is actually a codependent relationship, or it's going to be very unhappy with their, they're going to be fighting all the time because they're not, they're going to be trying to change each other and they're going to be trying to be enough for each other. Like I said, change each other.

even one person, two people getting in a relationship like that, what you're going to find is what is actually a codependent relationship, or it's going to be very unhappy with their, they're going to be fighting all the time because they're not, they're going to be trying to change each other and they're going to be trying to be enough for each other. Like I said, change each other.

And so, no, that is not going to be a healthy relationship. You have to bring some sense of self, even if you're 21 years old, you know, just some, and the thing is, we're meant to get it wrong. We're, you know, we're meant to have some like messed up experiences. How are we going to learn? But yeah, a sense of self, like this is who I am. This is what I want. This is what I struggle with still.

And so, no, that is not going to be a healthy relationship. You have to bring some sense of self, even if you're 21 years old, you know, just some, and the thing is, we're meant to get it wrong. We're, you know, we're meant to have some like messed up experiences. How are we going to learn? But yeah, a sense of self, like this is who I am. This is what I want. This is what I struggle with still.

This is, this is what makes me kind of difficult. This is what makes me insecure. These are things that I'm working on, but, but I also, in spite of the ambivalence that I have towards parts of myself, I still kind of like me.

This is, this is what makes me kind of difficult. This is what makes me insecure. These are things that I'm working on, but, but I also, in spite of the ambivalence that I have towards parts of myself, I still kind of like me.

Well, I don't like to speak in such black and white thinking, binary thinking, because have I known people who really struggle to love themselves, find someone who loves them unconditionally? Yeah, I've seen that. I've seen that. And I've seen that in people.

Well, I don't like to speak in such black and white thinking, binary thinking, because have I known people who really struggle to love themselves, find someone who loves them unconditionally? Yeah, I've seen that. I've seen that. And I've seen that in people.

And those people just had some intelligence inside of them that was saying to them, choose the person who's going to love you unconditionally versus what happens more of the time. Choose the person who's going to treat you in such a way that it reinforces your belief that you are not enough.

And those people just had some intelligence inside of them that was saying to them, choose the person who's going to love you unconditionally versus what happens more of the time. Choose the person who's going to treat you in such a way that it reinforces your belief that you are not enough.

That's more common. But it is possible.

That's more common. But it is possible.

Probably the first one's going to be more challenging. Because the most important thing is that you're being treated well in a relationship, regardless of where your self-worth is. You're treating someone well and they're treating you well. If there's any scenario where someone is not being respectful, that's always the worst scenario in my view.

Probably the first one's going to be more challenging. Because the most important thing is that you're being treated well in a relationship, regardless of where your self-worth is. You're treating someone well and they're treating you well. If there's any scenario where someone is not being respectful, that's always the worst scenario in my view.

I know.

I know.

But I did.

But I did.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.