Jillian Turecki

And that, it's the foundation. It's knowing that an argument is not going to end your relationship. When you feel safe enough to argue with your partner, then you are – I would say that is a very good measure of a good relationship. Sure. That you know that that's not – it doesn't mean that it's going to blow up. It's an argument. And you know what?

And that, it's the foundation. It's knowing that an argument is not going to end your relationship. When you feel safe enough to argue with your partner, then you are – I would say that is a very good measure of a good relationship. Sure. That you know that that's not – it doesn't mean that it's going to blow up. It's an argument. And you know what?

You're supposed to argue because you have to sometimes be very reminded of the fact that you are not in a relationship with – someone who, a projection of your ideal. You are in a relationship with an autonomous person who has their own beliefs and their own mind. And sometimes they're stubborn and sometimes you're stubborn. And that creates, that creates chemistry, by the way.

You're supposed to argue because you have to sometimes be very reminded of the fact that you are not in a relationship with – someone who, a projection of your ideal. You are in a relationship with an autonomous person who has their own beliefs and their own mind. And sometimes they're stubborn and sometimes you're stubborn. And that creates, that creates chemistry, by the way.

A little bit of arguing creates, can create a little bit of chemistry because you're, again, you're reminded like, oh, like I can't control this person. You know, like they are their own person. Sure. So love and the understanding of love, I think it's something that we all have to learn, you know, that it is a choice and that lust, there's no choice in lust.

A little bit of arguing creates, can create a little bit of chemistry because you're, again, you're reminded like, oh, like I can't control this person. You know, like they are their own person. Sure. So love and the understanding of love, I think it's something that we all have to learn, you know, that it is a choice and that lust, there's no choice in lust.

Lust is a very out of control, fun feeling. But you're not choosing to lust over someone. It's like it's taken over you. and a lot of people confuse the two.

Lust is a very out of control, fun feeling. But you're not choosing to lust over someone. It's like it's taken over you. and a lot of people confuse the two.

No, it's a sign of a person with a beating heart. What's a sign of an immature person is someone who thinks that lust is love. And that's not to put anyone down. It's just, we're all in that, we're all- They believe that the same thing. We're in it together to grow and to deepen our understanding of what it is to love ourselves and love another human being.

No, it's a sign of a person with a beating heart. What's a sign of an immature person is someone who thinks that lust is love. And that's not to put anyone down. It's just, we're all in that, we're all- They believe that the same thing. We're in it together to grow and to deepen our understanding of what it is to love ourselves and love another human being.

Like we're all in it together trying to learn this. Immature person. thinks that is so attached to the lust part of getting to know someone.

Like we're all in it together trying to learn this. Immature person. thinks that is so attached to the lust part of getting to know someone.

The feeling part. Exactly. And not the practice part.

The feeling part. Exactly. And not the practice part.

How can I love this person more? How can I transcend my ego right now when I just want to walk away when really what I have to do is the more loving thing to do? Because sometimes To make a relationship work, I believe one of the things that's really important is that you have to be in service of the relationship.

How can I love this person more? How can I transcend my ego right now when I just want to walk away when really what I have to do is the more loving thing to do? Because sometimes To make a relationship work, I believe one of the things that's really important is that you have to be in service of the relationship.

So sometimes you have to do what's best for the relationship, even if it means having a very uncomfortable conversation. You have to care so much about the relationship that you have with this person that you're willing to like do something that might not be that comfortable. That's love, right? Again, paradox, gray area, tons of it, not binary, you know?

So sometimes you have to do what's best for the relationship, even if it means having a very uncomfortable conversation. You have to care so much about the relationship that you have with this person that you're willing to like do something that might not be that comfortable. That's love, right? Again, paradox, gray area, tons of it, not binary, you know?

But what I say is, like, sometimes you just have to... Sometimes fighting for love is not fighting for a relationship that's wrong. It's showing up as the person you want to be in a relationship.

But what I say is, like, sometimes you just have to... Sometimes fighting for love is not fighting for a relationship that's wrong. It's showing up as the person you want to be in a relationship.