Jillian Turecki

Like I do this. I do that. I do have a life. I am doing things for myself. I am worthy. And then with a bit of luck, that person has read my book and followed my work and they realize that if they choose the person who sees the beauty in them rather than the person who is reinforcing some old belief.

Like I do this. I do that. I do have a life. I am doing things for myself. I am worthy. And then with a bit of luck, that person has read my book and followed my work and they realize that if they choose the person who sees the beauty in them rather than the person who is reinforcing some old belief.

Because it's also in the choice.

Because it's also in the choice.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yes. So I think that love is one of the hardest things to define. It's very undefinable in many ways. And it's something that... And I don't have all the answers. No one does. This is like... Philosophers have been theorizing on this for centuries. But what I do know is that two things. The love that you feel when you're falling in love with someone is love, but it's not the same as two years in.

Yes. So I think that love is one of the hardest things to define. It's very undefinable in many ways. And it's something that... And I don't have all the answers. No one does. This is like... Philosophers have been theorizing on this for centuries. But what I do know is that two things. The love that you feel when you're falling in love with someone is love, but it's not the same as two years in.

So the meaning, love changes. Love and the meaning that we assign to it changes. It morphs. It deepens. And love, to me, is not just a feeling. It's a choice. It's a habit. It's an intentional practice. And I think that when we truly love someone, my understanding is we really want the best for them. Like their needs are actually as important as our needs.

So the meaning, love changes. Love and the meaning that we assign to it changes. It morphs. It deepens. And love, to me, is not just a feeling. It's a choice. It's a habit. It's an intentional practice. And I think that when we truly love someone, my understanding is we really want the best for them. Like their needs are actually as important as our needs.

Not more important, but not less important. We want them, we really, like their best interests are our best interests. Like we really take their best interests to heart. We want the very, very best for them, even if that means not being in a relationship with them.

Not more important, but not less important. We want them, we really, like their best interests are our best interests. Like we really take their best interests to heart. We want the very, very best for them, even if that means not being in a relationship with them.

Lust is all the things that we feel when there's a lot of chemistry and we feel a little obsessive and there's a lot of novelty and we can't stop thinking about them. And we're like, we feel like... We feel crazy. That crazy in love feeling is not love. That is lust.

Lust is all the things that we feel when there's a lot of chemistry and we feel a little obsessive and there's a lot of novelty and we can't stop thinking about them. And we're like, we feel like... We feel crazy. That crazy in love feeling is not love. That is lust.

And I think that a lot of people make these big decisions like let's move in together or like this person is the one for me when really you are drunk. And you're drunk off of the chemicals in your body.

And I think that a lot of people make these big decisions like let's move in together or like this person is the one for me when really you are drunk. And you're drunk off of the chemicals in your body.

You don't know the person. They are a stranger.

You don't know the person. They are a stranger.

And actually a true emotional connection actually takes time to build with someone. Like you can feel that. Like I'm sure after that first conversation, deep conversation that you had with Martha, you felt it. But I would even argue that that's like... That was still very much lust and attraction. Like a true emotional connection happens when you feel safe with someone, there's trust.

And actually a true emotional connection actually takes time to build with someone. Like you can feel that. Like I'm sure after that first conversation, deep conversation that you had with Martha, you felt it. But I would even argue that that's like... That was still very much lust and attraction. Like a true emotional connection happens when you feel safe with someone, there's trust.