Jillian Turecki

More times than not, the reason why people find themselves in toxic dynamics, unhealthy dynamics is because of ignoring red flags, basically ignoring their intuition. It's just basically that. There's a paradox and there's many paradoxes in relationships. One is people tell you who they are pretty early on.

More times than not, the reason why people find themselves in toxic dynamics, unhealthy dynamics is because of ignoring red flags, basically ignoring their intuition. It's just basically that. There's a paradox and there's many paradoxes in relationships. One is people tell you who they are pretty early on.

And the other one is at the same time, it does take time to discover who a person really is and their character, right? There are certain red flags that might just be like, give you some pause and it's worth exploration. So it's not just like, oh, I'm not sure if that's a red flag. You know, let me just bottle up inside and then like pull away or walk away. Let me ask the person about it.

And the other one is at the same time, it does take time to discover who a person really is and their character, right? There are certain red flags that might just be like, give you some pause and it's worth exploration. So it's not just like, oh, I'm not sure if that's a red flag. You know, let me just bottle up inside and then like pull away or walk away. Let me ask the person about it.

And the other one is at the same time, it does take time to discover who a person really is and their character, right? There are certain red flags that might just be like, give you some pause and it's worth exploration. So it's not just like, oh, I'm not sure if that's a red flag. You know, let me just bottle up inside and then like pull away or walk away. Let me ask the person about it.

You know, like, let's just say they're talking a lot about their ex and they're talking about their ex a lot. And they're feeling like you start to get the feeling that maybe they're not entirely over this person. What you would say is, you know, I noticed that you talk about your ex a lot and I'm getting the sense that maybe there's still...

You know, like, let's just say they're talking a lot about their ex and they're talking about their ex a lot. And they're feeling like you start to get the feeling that maybe they're not entirely over this person. What you would say is, you know, I noticed that you talk about your ex a lot and I'm getting the sense that maybe there's still...

You know, like, let's just say they're talking a lot about their ex and they're talking about their ex a lot. And they're feeling like you start to get the feeling that maybe they're not entirely over this person. What you would say is, you know, I noticed that you talk about your ex a lot and I'm getting the sense that maybe there's still...

some emotional charge there or maybe you just had a bad day around it or like i'd love to understand more but this is what i'm observing and then you see what they say you never know their ex could be their ex-spouse and they could say you know what really sorry we co-parent today was a bad day with them so they're top of mind but i'm going to be more mindful of that

some emotional charge there or maybe you just had a bad day around it or like i'd love to understand more but this is what i'm observing and then you see what they say you never know their ex could be their ex-spouse and they could say you know what really sorry we co-parent today was a bad day with them so they're top of mind but i'm going to be more mindful of that

some emotional charge there or maybe you just had a bad day around it or like i'd love to understand more but this is what i'm observing and then you see what they say you never know their ex could be their ex-spouse and they could say you know what really sorry we co-parent today was a bad day with them so they're top of mind but i'm going to be more mindful of that

Or they might just like, you know, keep talking about how their ex is terrible, which is a really, that's a red flag because you want someone to be able to, first of all, not bad mouth their ex. And instead just be like, I learned a lot from that experience. This is what I learned. Because then you get the idea that they actually processed. But a lot of times people don't listen to their bodies.

Or they might just like, you know, keep talking about how their ex is terrible, which is a really, that's a red flag because you want someone to be able to, first of all, not bad mouth their ex. And instead just be like, I learned a lot from that experience. This is what I learned. Because then you get the idea that they actually processed. But a lot of times people don't listen to their bodies.

Or they might just like, you know, keep talking about how their ex is terrible, which is a really, that's a red flag because you want someone to be able to, first of all, not bad mouth their ex. And instead just be like, I learned a lot from that experience. This is what I learned. Because then you get the idea that they actually processed. But a lot of times people don't listen to their bodies.

Like when something happens, and it feels like an immediate punch in your gut or shut down in your system and something really doesn't feel good. They don't listen. They don't say, hey, that did not feel good. They don't take it seriously. They think, well, I'm really attracted to this person or I've just spent the last five months really trying to get to know them. I don't want this to end.

Like when something happens, and it feels like an immediate punch in your gut or shut down in your system and something really doesn't feel good. They don't listen. They don't say, hey, that did not feel good. They don't take it seriously. They think, well, I'm really attracted to this person or I've just spent the last five months really trying to get to know them. I don't want this to end.

Like when something happens, and it feels like an immediate punch in your gut or shut down in your system and something really doesn't feel good. They don't listen. They don't say, hey, that did not feel good. They don't take it seriously. They think, well, I'm really attracted to this person or I've just spent the last five months really trying to get to know them. I don't want this to end.

And there happens to be this whole inner dialogue that happens about why it can't end. And these are the things that I really try to empower a lot of people to pay attention to because those really unhealthy dynamics are ones in which people are ignoring their intuition.

And there happens to be this whole inner dialogue that happens about why it can't end. And these are the things that I really try to empower a lot of people to pay attention to because those really unhealthy dynamics are ones in which people are ignoring their intuition.

And there happens to be this whole inner dialogue that happens about why it can't end. And these are the things that I really try to empower a lot of people to pay attention to because those really unhealthy dynamics are ones in which people are ignoring their intuition.