Jillian Turecki

Or are you still stuck in the story of just constantly blaming your ex and feeling victimized by your ex? And so now it's like you're just a walking trigger. So these are some of the things. And again, it's just you don't have to get it perfect. It's just really honestly what it boils down to is self-reflection.

Well, first of all, men obsess quite a bit as well. They can, you know, not everyone obsesses, but they can obsess quite a bit as well. The obsessing usually happens when we are the ones who are being rejected. So it's the rejection is what stimulates all the obsessing because then we're like, we're not good enough. Should I try it harder? All of that.

Well, first of all, men obsess quite a bit as well. They can, you know, not everyone obsesses, but they can obsess quite a bit as well. The obsessing usually happens when we are the ones who are being rejected. So it's the rejection is what stimulates all the obsessing because then we're like, we're not good enough. Should I try it harder? All of that.

Well, first of all, men obsess quite a bit as well. They can, you know, not everyone obsesses, but they can obsess quite a bit as well. The obsessing usually happens when we are the ones who are being rejected. So it's the rejection is what stimulates all the obsessing because then we're like, we're not good enough. Should I try it harder? All of that.

Obsessing is part of the breakup process and it's part of the rejection process. And you start to ruminate is really what it is. And you're going back in time and you're replaying certain conversations and you're seeing it played out differently and what you could have done differently differently. There's different ways to put a little bit of an end to that. One is to talk to someone.

Obsessing is part of the breakup process and it's part of the rejection process. And you start to ruminate is really what it is. And you're going back in time and you're replaying certain conversations and you're seeing it played out differently and what you could have done differently differently. There's different ways to put a little bit of an end to that. One is to talk to someone.

Obsessing is part of the breakup process and it's part of the rejection process. And you start to ruminate is really what it is. And you're going back in time and you're replaying certain conversations and you're seeing it played out differently and what you could have done differently differently. There's different ways to put a little bit of an end to that. One is to talk to someone.

Another is to journal, exercise, distract yourself with work a little bit. You are very right that what women will do is obsess over the person who they barely know, who they started dating. Does he like me? Does she like me? Are they into me? When are they going to call this or that? Because women, we are very conditioned to have this sort of choose me mentality. pick me, choose me.

Another is to journal, exercise, distract yourself with work a little bit. You are very right that what women will do is obsess over the person who they barely know, who they started dating. Does he like me? Does she like me? Are they into me? When are they going to call this or that? Because women, we are very conditioned to have this sort of choose me mentality. pick me, choose me.

Another is to journal, exercise, distract yourself with work a little bit. You are very right that what women will do is obsess over the person who they barely know, who they started dating. Does he like me? Does she like me? Are they into me? When are they going to call this or that? Because women, we are very conditioned to have this sort of choose me mentality. pick me, choose me.

And men will get into this as well. It's not just women, but yes, more often than not, women will get into this, this wormhole basically of this person who they barely know that they have made the central character of their lives before that person has even gotten remotely close to earning that role. And it is the obsession with being enough and being chosen when in reality, You are the chooser.

And men will get into this as well. It's not just women, but yes, more often than not, women will get into this, this wormhole basically of this person who they barely know that they have made the central character of their lives before that person has even gotten remotely close to earning that role. And it is the obsession with being enough and being chosen when in reality, You are the chooser.

And men will get into this as well. It's not just women, but yes, more often than not, women will get into this, this wormhole basically of this person who they barely know that they have made the central character of their lives before that person has even gotten remotely close to earning that role. And it is the obsession with being enough and being chosen when in reality, You are the chooser.

And that is the most important thing. And we get caught up, and a lot of women, and it depends on their stage of life, they'll get caught up because maybe they want to have a family, they want to get married, they want to have the ring on their finger. They have all this anxiety and social and societal and familial pressure that's on their shoulders.

And that is the most important thing. And we get caught up, and a lot of women, and it depends on their stage of life, they'll get caught up because maybe they want to have a family, they want to get married, they want to have the ring on their finger. They have all this anxiety and social and societal and familial pressure that's on their shoulders.

And that is the most important thing. And we get caught up, and a lot of women, and it depends on their stage of life, they'll get caught up because maybe they want to have a family, they want to get married, they want to have the ring on their finger. They have all this anxiety and social and societal and familial pressure that's on their shoulders.

And so they meet someone who they're attracted to, who maybe looks good on paper, and they become totally obsessed with being good enough for them. And actually, that's exactly what turns the person off, particularly turns off a man. When really, you have to think, do I even want you? Are you good enough for me? Are our values aligned? Hey, this is what I need from you.

And so they meet someone who they're attracted to, who maybe looks good on paper, and they become totally obsessed with being good enough for them. And actually, that's exactly what turns the person off, particularly turns off a man. When really, you have to think, do I even want you? Are you good enough for me? Are our values aligned? Hey, this is what I need from you.

And so they meet someone who they're attracted to, who maybe looks good on paper, and they become totally obsessed with being good enough for them. And actually, that's exactly what turns the person off, particularly turns off a man. When really, you have to think, do I even want you? Are you good enough for me? Are our values aligned? Hey, this is what I need from you.

Because a lot of women, and men, again, will do this too, but a lot more women will silence what their needs are. Let me try to be cool. Let me go with the flow. Let me be a pleaser. Let me be a nurturer. Because everything is like, I want you to choose me. I want you to pursue me. I want to be like that fairy tale. And nothing could be further from the truth of what reality is. And that is,