Jillian Turecki

And then when we start to develop an emotional bond with someone, we want to know even more. And there are some people who are just not investing at the level that you are, you know, they're not putting in.

And then when we start to develop an emotional bond with someone, we want to know even more. And there are some people who are just not investing at the level that you are, you know, they're not putting in.

So another part of this is, so I was speaking a little bit more to like the beginning stages, but then when things get your, it's like, okay, you're in a really, you're quote unquote in a relationship. You're not taking the time to work on what needs to be worked on inside of yourself and in the relationship to make the relationship wonderful.

So another part of this is, so I was speaking a little bit more to like the beginning stages, but then when things get your, it's like, okay, you're in a really, you're quote unquote in a relationship. You're not taking the time to work on what needs to be worked on inside of yourself and in the relationship to make the relationship wonderful.

And because it really, a relationship is something that is built and it's only as healthy as the two people are behaving in it. So you can't, I think that one of the biggest myths out there is, well, a relationship should just be easy. And I think that there's a fine line. You have to know where you draw the line when something is just too hard.

And because it really, a relationship is something that is built and it's only as healthy as the two people are behaving in it. So you can't, I think that one of the biggest myths out there is, well, a relationship should just be easy. And I think that there's a fine line. You have to know where you draw the line when something is just too hard.

But easy? First of all, if relationships were just easy, we would be really bored. We need a little friction. We need friction to grow. We need friction to learn more about ourselves and to learn more about the other person.

But easy? First of all, if relationships were just easy, we would be really bored. We need a little friction. We need friction to grow. We need friction to learn more about ourselves and to learn more about the other person.

And so there are people who don't understand, lots of people, many, many people, because we're not really taught this unless we're modeled this by our parents, that your relationship is really dependent on what you put into it. It really is. And so if someone is not investing, They're not putting in the work to make it great. They're not going out of their way to be a great partner.

And so there are people who don't understand, lots of people, many, many people, because we're not really taught this unless we're modeled this by our parents, that your relationship is really dependent on what you put into it. It really is. And so if someone is not investing, They're not putting in the work to make it great. They're not going out of their way to be a great partner.

They're not going out of their way to meet your needs. They're not going out of their way to communicate what their needs are. And, you know, maybe that person just thinks, well, I can be in the relationship and just coast. And that's very frustrating for someone whose understanding of relationship is, no, we got to put the work in.

They're not going out of their way to meet your needs. They're not going out of their way to communicate what their needs are. And, you know, maybe that person just thinks, well, I can be in the relationship and just coast. And that's very frustrating for someone whose understanding of relationship is, no, we got to put the work in.

And so you have one person who thinks a relationship should be easy. Another person whose belief system includes, no, a relationship is what we make of it. And then you got a recipe for a clash, you know? And so you can't build it with someone like that.

And so you have one person who thinks a relationship should be easy. Another person whose belief system includes, no, a relationship is what we make of it. And then you got a recipe for a clash, you know? And so you can't build it with someone like that.

How healthy they're behaving in it. Yeah, absolutely.

How healthy they're behaving in it. Yeah, absolutely.

Let's see, let's take the whole hour, you know, right?

Let's see, let's take the whole hour, you know, right?

Oh, wow, we got, these are two big subjects. Okay, so here's a reality to life and love. When we start seeing someone and we're attracted to them and they're attracted to us and we're excited about them, We want to seduce them.

Oh, wow, we got, these are two big subjects. Okay, so here's a reality to life and love. When we start seeing someone and we're attracted to them and they're attracted to us and we're excited about them, We want to seduce them.