Jillian Turecki

And this isn't necessarily, sure there are the people out there who are manipulative and they're gonna do all these games and they're wearing a thick mask and then when the mask comes off, they're a real son of a and they're really, really mean. Those people exist and they're incredibly toxic. But let's just talk about all the rest of us, right?

And this isn't necessarily, sure there are the people out there who are manipulative and they're gonna do all these games and they're wearing a thick mask and then when the mask comes off, they're a real son of a and they're really, really mean. Those people exist and they're incredibly toxic. But let's just talk about all the rest of us, right?

So we put our best foot forward because we're trying to, we're marketing. We're in sales and marketing. It's like, how can I present myself to be the best person I can be? And a lot of times, unless it's someone very manipulative, A lot of times the person who we are in the beginning is actually who we are when we are unburdened by stress, monotony, negative moods.

So we put our best foot forward because we're trying to, we're marketing. We're in sales and marketing. It's like, how can I present myself to be the best person I can be? And a lot of times, unless it's someone very manipulative, A lot of times the person who we are in the beginning is actually who we are when we are unburdened by stress, monotony, negative moods.

Sometimes it really is our highest self in the beginning. And sometimes it's just like, okay, maybe you're not being as authentic as you need to be. So we do that in the beginning because we want to, it's, it's marketing and sales and we're trying to seduce.

Sometimes it really is our highest self in the beginning. And sometimes it's just like, okay, maybe you're not being as authentic as you need to be. So we do that in the beginning because we want to, it's, it's marketing and sales and we're trying to seduce.

We want to close the deal and everyone is doing it, whether they're conscious of it or not. It's not that there's no place for that because it's, that's going to happen because oftentimes, because when we're attracted to someone, we're also really excited, right? And we're happy, but it's also important to have really important conversations of, Hey, This is something that I struggle with.

We want to close the deal and everyone is doing it, whether they're conscious of it or not. It's not that there's no place for that because it's, that's going to happen because oftentimes, because when we're attracted to someone, we're also really excited, right? And we're happy, but it's also important to have really important conversations of, Hey, This is something that I struggle with.

Whether it be like, you know, I get really anxious sometimes. Or sometimes, and I'm working on it, but sometimes I can get depressed. And this is what's going on when I am depressed. This is the support system that I have. But I want you to know that this is something that sometimes rears its head. Like the more real we can be with people in the beginning, the better.

Whether it be like, you know, I get really anxious sometimes. Or sometimes, and I'm working on it, but sometimes I can get depressed. And this is what's going on when I am depressed. This is the support system that I have. But I want you to know that this is something that sometimes rears its head. Like the more real we can be with people in the beginning, the better.

So I think I answered the first question, didn't I?

So I think I answered the first question, didn't I?

But what happens is that, let me go a little further, the masks come off and then we get comfortable. And it's almost like our partner becomes like a family member. And we think, oh, they'll love me anyway. I mean, here's the thing. It's a paradox. On the one hand, you want your partner to see you at your worst and still love you. And you want to see them at their worst and be like, you know what?

But what happens is that, let me go a little further, the masks come off and then we get comfortable. And it's almost like our partner becomes like a family member. And we think, oh, they'll love me anyway. I mean, here's the thing. It's a paradox. On the one hand, you want your partner to see you at your worst and still love you. And you want to see them at their worst and be like, you know what?

If this is your worst, I love you. On the other hand... There is great value in continuing to be polite. and to be kind and to really do your best to put your best foot forward every day for yourself and for your partner.

If this is your worst, I love you. On the other hand... There is great value in continuing to be polite. and to be kind and to really do your best to put your best foot forward every day for yourself and for your partner.

But it's an unrealist expectation that you're always gonna be that because we're human beings and we're complicated and we have negative emotions and sadness and anger, these are all part of life. But where are you living emotionally? That's really what's important. What are you bringing consistently to the table? It's the consistency.

But it's an unrealist expectation that you're always gonna be that because we're human beings and we're complicated and we have negative emotions and sadness and anger, these are all part of life. But where are you living emotionally? That's really what's important. What are you bringing consistently to the table? It's the consistency.

Why do people stay in relationships if they're not being treated well? Is that what you asked? Yeah.

Why do people stay in relationships if they're not being treated well? Is that what you asked? Yeah.