Jillian Turecki

Let's talk about six months in. Sometimes these red flags, and I put that in quotation marks, do only come up about six months in. And it's very difficult because six months in, if you really like someone, the attachment is there. You're already entangled.

Let's talk about six months in. Sometimes these red flags, and I put that in quotation marks, do only come up about six months in. And it's very difficult because six months in, if you really like someone, the attachment is there. You're already entangled.

It's really hard to disconnect. And people, it can be very disorienting. We get, and then we have, you know, even three months of bliss, three to six months of bliss. We now are part, we're living out a dream. We're living out a fantasy of what this could be.

It's really hard to disconnect. And people, it can be very disorienting. We get, and then we have, you know, even three months of bliss, three to six months of bliss. We now are part, we're living out a dream. We're living out a fantasy of what this could be.

And amazing it's been. And now I don't have to go out into the dating world. And now I can actually build this. And so it's devastating in its own way, in its own right. When six months in, all of a sudden this person is really nothing like who you thought they were.

And amazing it's been. And now I don't have to go out into the dating world. And now I can actually build this. And so it's devastating in its own way, in its own right. When six months in, all of a sudden this person is really nothing like who you thought they were.

It's actually devastating. But you got to be really strong. And if it's... It's one thing if it's like, oh... They're in a bad mood. Maybe they're a little bit cranky. Or maybe you notice something that's a little red flaggy. Then you sit down with them. You don't just say, I'm out. You sit down with them. You say, this is something that concerned me. Can we talk about it?

It's actually devastating. But you got to be really strong. And if it's... It's one thing if it's like, oh... They're in a bad mood. Maybe they're a little bit cranky. Or maybe you notice something that's a little red flaggy. Then you sit down with them. You don't just say, I'm out. You sit down with them. You say, this is something that concerned me. Can we talk about it?

And then it's in that conversation or their willingness to have that conversation that really you're getting to see if they are someone who you can build with. And you are someone who is ready to build. Because it's all in that conversation. Because there's going to be things that are going to come up.

And then it's in that conversation or their willingness to have that conversation that really you're getting to see if they are someone who you can build with. And you are someone who is ready to build. Because it's all in that conversation. Because there's going to be things that are going to come up.

Because one of the biggest mistakes that people make, I think everyone, if they're honest with themselves, have been guilty of this, is... Many of us on an unconscious level have a blueprint of the kind of relationship we want and the blueprint of the kind of partner we want.

Because one of the biggest mistakes that people make, I think everyone, if they're honest with themselves, have been guilty of this, is... Many of us on an unconscious level have a blueprint of the kind of relationship we want and the blueprint of the kind of partner we want.

And so we meet someone, they're amazing, we're attracted to them, and we unconsciously project our ideal, the ideal of what we think a partner should be onto this person. And we put them up on a pedestal. And then, and this is a little, this is, I'm deviating a little bit why we stay in relationships where we're mistreated. I want to get back to that.

And so we meet someone, they're amazing, we're attracted to them, and we unconsciously project our ideal, the ideal of what we think a partner should be onto this person. And we put them up on a pedestal. And then, and this is a little, this is, I'm deviating a little bit why we stay in relationships where we're mistreated. I want to get back to that.

But this is, then we get to know each other and things get real. And we think. And again, it's usually an unconscious thought. We think, this person is not as perfect as I thought they were. What happens to the person who's on the pedestal? Whenever you're on a pedestal, you are inevitably going to become the fallen hero because you're going to fall off the pedestal.

But this is, then we get to know each other and things get real. And we think. And again, it's usually an unconscious thought. We think, this person is not as perfect as I thought they were. What happens to the person who's on the pedestal? Whenever you're on a pedestal, you are inevitably going to become the fallen hero because you're going to fall off the pedestal.

And then things start to get real and they start to nitpick. And you're not living up to my expectations. And a lot of people break up at that moment. Why? All because they had unrealistic expectations about love and about people and about partnership. And that's something that they have to resolve within themselves.

And then things start to get real and they start to nitpick. And you're not living up to my expectations. And a lot of people break up at that moment. Why? All because they had unrealistic expectations about love and about people and about partnership. And that's something that they have to resolve within themselves.

Because the transition from the honeymoon phase to the more committed stage of the relationship, things get really real. And when things get really real, that's when you have to That's when the mirror is in front of you and you're seeing, oh, all those things that I was working on, why is this coming up now, right?

Because the transition from the honeymoon phase to the more committed stage of the relationship, things get really real. And when things get really real, that's when you have to That's when the mirror is in front of you and you're seeing, oh, all those things that I was working on, why is this coming up now, right?