Jillian Turecki

Oh, many, many years ago, many years ago, over 20 years ago, I was in a relationship with someone who was very abusive. I've never been in a relationship that has been abusive since. I mean, definitely I've been in relationships, I've been in beautiful relationships, and I've been in relationships where maybe, where definitely I was not treated at the level that I want to be treated.

Oh, many, many years ago, many years ago, over 20 years ago, I was in a relationship with someone who was very abusive. I've never been in a relationship that has been abusive since. I mean, definitely I've been in relationships, I've been in beautiful relationships, and I've been in relationships where maybe, where definitely I was not treated at the level that I want to be treated.

But that we have to differentiate that from straight up abuse. Not every time you're not, you know, maybe you want to be treated better. That's not the same thing as abuse. So my lowest self-worth was when I was in that relationship.

But that we have to differentiate that from straight up abuse. Not every time you're not, you know, maybe you want to be treated better. That's not the same thing as abuse. So my lowest self-worth was when I was in that relationship.

One year.

One year.

Yeah. The first three months or the first couple months were great. And I was very naive. It was just and I it was all attraction and lust. There was nothing. I wasn't, my radar was not up for character. My radar, like even, I remember asking my friend who knew him, what do you think? She was like, I think that he might be really complicated with women. And I was like, challenge accepted.

Yeah. The first three months or the first couple months were great. And I was very naive. It was just and I it was all attraction and lust. There was nothing. I wasn't, my radar was not up for character. My radar, like even, I remember asking my friend who knew him, what do you think? She was like, I think that he might be really complicated with women. And I was like, challenge accepted.

I'm going to solve this. I'm going to be different. It's going to be different with me. Like, yeah. Why do women,

I'm going to solve this. I'm going to be different. It's going to be different with me. Like, yeah. Why do women,

I think it's more, I'm going to be the one who inspires him to change. And so therefore- You can't change anyone now. No, of course not.

I think it's more, I'm going to be the one who inspires him to change. And so therefore- You can't change anyone now. No, of course not.

Because it's depicted in films. I mean, how many, how many movies are there out there where there's like the bad boy and the, and he changes, he softens.

Because it's depicted in films. I mean, how many, how many movies are there out there where there's like the bad boy and the, and he changes, he softens.

He becomes a better man.

He becomes a better man.

I believe most of us is... There's a lot of conditioning that is happening. There's also childhood. You know, maybe for that woman, that father was very emotionally unavailable. And so she's able to then be with someone who's never going to be able to meet her needs. It also depends on who the broken man is. If the broken man is very masculine seeming, he's not truly. So there's a misconception.

I believe most of us is... There's a lot of conditioning that is happening. There's also childhood. You know, maybe for that woman, that father was very emotionally unavailable. And so she's able to then be with someone who's never going to be able to meet her needs. It also depends on who the broken man is. If the broken man is very masculine seeming, he's not truly. So there's a misconception.

A false masculinity. So maybe he's big and muscular. Maybe he's tough.

A false masculinity. So maybe he's big and muscular. Maybe he's tough.