Jillian Turecki

I'll get to that in a moment. But you first said, like, what's my biggest fear? I think it's the same thing. Like, I was a yoga teacher for many years. And so I got hit on a lot, you know? Yeah, yeah.

I'll get to that in a moment. But you first said, like, what's my biggest fear? I think it's the same thing. Like, I was a yoga teacher for many years. And so I got hit on a lot, you know? Yeah, yeah.

As a teacher. Yeah. Yeah. As a teacher.

As a teacher. Yeah. Yeah. As a teacher.

Yeah, it was just, there were crushes developed, right? Which is normal because I'm sort of like in a position like, you know, but again, the pedestal, I've been put on many, many pedestals, which when I was younger, I enjoyed because I thought that's great. Yeah. When I became wiser.

Yeah, it was just, there were crushes developed, right? Which is normal because I'm sort of like in a position like, you know, but again, the pedestal, I've been put on many, many pedestals, which when I was younger, I enjoyed because I thought that's great. Yeah. When I became wiser.

Yeah, exactly. But when you become wiser, you realize if you're on a pedestal, you're not being seen for who you are. You're being seen for who they want you to be. And so, you know, oh, she's a yogi. She's a teacher. She's got the glasses. I mean, it's the whole thing. It's like she's grounded. She has it together. And, like, yes, of course, like, all those things are true. And I'm also flawed.

Yeah, exactly. But when you become wiser, you realize if you're on a pedestal, you're not being seen for who you are. You're being seen for who they want you to be. And so, you know, oh, she's a yogi. She's a teacher. She's got the glasses. I mean, it's the whole thing. It's like she's grounded. She has it together. And, like, yes, of course, like, all those things are true. And I'm also flawed.

And I've got trauma. And, like, I'm, like, really quirky. And, and, and, and, and, you know. So I guess my biggest fear as a relationship coach is a really amazing man being, I don't want being intimidated or thinking like, oh, she's a relationship coach. Like, what's that going to be like? Because who I am in a, like, I don't wear a relationship coach hat in my relationships.

And I've got trauma. And, like, I'm, like, really quirky. And, and, and, and, and, you know. So I guess my biggest fear as a relationship coach is a really amazing man being, I don't want being intimidated or thinking like, oh, she's a relationship coach. Like, what's that going to be like? Because who I am in a, like, I don't wear a relationship coach hat in my relationships.

No, I'm not more. Yeah, exactly. I'm really messed up. I'm just Jillian, right? I'm Jillian, the partner, Jillian, the girlfriend, Jillian, the lover. Like I'm just not, I, I don't analyze the people who I'm in a relationship with at all. So I don't, I don't, I don't want to.

No, I'm not more. Yeah, exactly. I'm really messed up. I'm just Jillian, right? I'm Jillian, the partner, Jillian, the girlfriend, Jillian, the lover. Like I'm just not, I, I don't analyze the people who I'm in a relationship with at all. So I don't, I don't, I don't want to.

Oh, for sure.

Oh, for sure.

Totally. But I don't, but I don't want to be like, I want to be in a relationship with someone who has a few things to teach me and not the other way around. Yeah. Yeah. So that's my fear. So the kind of relationship that I want values, I mean,

Totally. But I don't, but I don't want to be like, I want to be in a relationship with someone who has a few things to teach me and not the other way around. Yeah. Yeah. So that's my fear. So the kind of relationship that I want values, I mean,

Oh, my God, never. So here's something that I was saying yesterday that I think will speak to the value part, which is in the past, like in my ex-marriage, a lot of what inspired the writing of this book, There was a few incidents, but one that really is like etched in my brain that I go into detail in the book where there was his tendency would be to kind of shut down and kind of shut down.

Oh, my God, never. So here's something that I was saying yesterday that I think will speak to the value part, which is in the past, like in my ex-marriage, a lot of what inspired the writing of this book, There was a few incidents, but one that really is like etched in my brain that I go into detail in the book where there was his tendency would be to kind of shut down and kind of shut down.

Avoid. Avoid and shut down and just kind of like not tell me what was bothering him. So instead I had to guess it. And that was very much like my father. And because of that, there are just, and it would sometimes happen to a degree where it was really not nice. Really not nice.

Avoid. Avoid and shut down and just kind of like not tell me what was bothering him. So instead I had to guess it. And that was very much like my father. And because of that, there are just, and it would sometimes happen to a degree where it was really not nice. Really not nice.