Jillian Turecki
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1,450 appearances
11 recordings
9 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard Apr 2025
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Und wenn du ein Kind bist und du hast einen hohen Degree von Sensitivität, dann ist es wichtig, dass du dich nicht nur in der Wunde befindest, sondern auch in der Wunde. Du weißt nicht und du hast keine emotionale Regulierungskunst. Die einzigen emotionale Regulierungskunst, die du lernst, sind die von Mama und Vater. Das stimmt. Und meine Eltern hatten eine schreckliche Beziehung.
Mein Vater war ein sehr komplizierter Mann. Er hat viel mit Bipolarschäden kämpft, eine sehr schwere Form von Bipolarschäden, die ich als Kind nicht beurteilt hatte.
Also ich habe seine Moods sehr intensiv gefühlt und er hat mich gefreut. Er hat mich nie an die Hand gelegt. But his energy was very dark and very unpredictable because I saw more of the serious depressive side. And he was a psychiatrist, so he was very brilliant, so he had a very analytical mind. And he was never present, he was always in his head.
And so I would pick up on the tension that he had in his body. And then he was unavailable, like you couldn't ever really reach him.
Yes, something I'm doing wrong.
I found some peace with him before he passed away. I had to wake up one day because I decided to be estranged from him. One day I decided to stop returning his calls. And I thought, if I just never spoke to him again, that I would be okay, that that would be the solution. Yeah, for sure. For sure. For sure.
So as I said, I became obsessed. And so with figuring out what makes a relationship work. And so I worked with coaches. I worked with, I have mentors that I've had really since then. And I put my entire life into understanding relationships and the concept of love.
And I always felt there was something, because I had been a yoga teacher for many years, and I always felt like there was something more for me. And I didn't know what it was, and then I discovered it was this. And I said, you know, this is what I'm going to do. I'm going to teach people about love and about relationships, and I'm going to continue to teach people
wie man die Beziehung mit sich selbst fortführen kann, nicht nur durch Yoga, sondern auch in der Art und Weise, wie sie denken, besonders in ihren Beziehungen.
Mein Mann repräsentierte meinen Vater. Und hier ist das interessante. They looked totally different, their personalities were wildly different. So their energy was different. But my husband would shut down. I felt, it's the familiar, it's how I felt in my body was so familiar, I didn't even recognize it.
Which is, oh, he's in that mood, maybe it's me. And then that tension that comes from believing that your partner is pulling away from you and you are the reason. And so you're constantly questioning in some way, unconsciously, your lovability, because this person is pulling away. And that was something that I felt... all the time in childhood.
You know, when I reflect on my marriage that ended many years ago, and I had to reflect on it a lot Ich habe gemerkt, dass es viele Dinge gab, obwohl ich ihn für viele Dinge blöden konnte und tatsächlich wahrhaben konnte. Es gab Dinge, die ich erkannt habe, dass, wow, wenn ich es wieder alles wieder gemacht hätte, würde ich so viele Dinge anders machen.
Und ich kann mich zurückdenken zu anderen Teilen meines Lebens, wo ich wirklich grave Fehler gemacht habe, wo ich vielleicht aus Charakter geachtet habe oder Dinge gemacht habe, die ich nicht machen wollte. And someone once told me, and I wish I could remember, I wish I could say it was my mom, I don't think it was.
But I was told many years ago that there's no such thing as failure, there's just lessons. A lot of lessons. A lot of lessons. And the thing is, the story that you keep replaying in your mind about your marriage and the things that you wish you had done differently or the mistakes that you made or the mistakes that he made,
At this point, it's really a story because we can't remember everything that happened back then. We're just giving it a meaning. So it's not that the story isn't true, but you're giving it a meaning, which is I failed it. I don't know. I'm a failure. I can't be trusted. If I get married again, I'm going to have pain again. Do these all ring true to you?
Right. And I understand that. I understand that. But the fear of pain is making you push away good men.
But you both let each other down in many ways, right? In your marriage? I mean, isn't that, that's typically what happens in a marriage, is that we all make mistakes. I mean, it's not that it's a 50-50 split, but it was a marriage, it didn't work out. And now you have an opportunity to love again. The greatest gift you can give your children is to live your life and to be happy.
Now, of course, you can't be happy all the time. But the greatest gift you can give them is to just live your life. There is no version of love that does not come with it, the risk of a broken heart. But we decide to take that risk because nothing meaningful in life comes without risk. And you have to now start to trust yourself that whatever doesn't work out, you can handle.
Und wenn du in einer Beziehung bist und du anfängst zu bemerken, oh, ich mache das Ding wieder, wo ich sie entferne, ich sabotiere, hast du jetzt die Möglichkeit, dir zu sagen, oh, ich mache das Ding wieder. Ich mache das nicht. Und du kannst es sogar mit deinem Partner sprechen. Ich habe diesen Pattern, den ich mache, und ich will das nicht machen. Können wir darüber sprechen?
Du weißt, ich wette, dass du genau weißt, was es ist, was du tust, wenn du eine Beziehung sabotierst. You have a habit. That's true.
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