Jillian Turecki

And you can't change them, you know, some people are slow changers, some people are fast changers. And if you can't be in the relationship and accept each other, I mean, look, this all boils down also to one's belief system around partnership and marriage and commitment. Is your belief system that, you know, I'm supposed to feel romantically in love with this person every single day?

And you can't change them, you know, some people are slow changers, some people are fast changers. And if you can't be in the relationship and accept each other, I mean, look, this all boils down also to one's belief system around partnership and marriage and commitment. Is your belief system that, you know, I'm supposed to feel romantically in love with this person every single day?

And you can't change them, you know, some people are slow changers, some people are fast changers. And if you can't be in the relationship and accept each other, I mean, look, this all boils down also to one's belief system around partnership and marriage and commitment. Is your belief system that, you know, I'm supposed to feel romantically in love with this person every single day?

Or do I understand that love is also a choice and that sometimes I'm not going to feel all that passion, but I'm still passionate about keeping this relationship intact? Is your belief system that, okay, the passion is waning a little bit.

Or do I understand that love is also a choice and that sometimes I'm not going to feel all that passion, but I'm still passionate about keeping this relationship intact? Is your belief system that, okay, the passion is waning a little bit.

Or do I understand that love is also a choice and that sometimes I'm not going to feel all that passion, but I'm still passionate about keeping this relationship intact? Is your belief system that, okay, the passion is waning a little bit.

Usually when the passion wanes, it's because the couple is a little bored and they're not doing enough fun things together because we need a little bit of dopamine. We need a little bit of cortisol producing activities that we do together to ignite the chemistry and the spark again. You know, so it's just your level of what is your belief system around commitment and

Usually when the passion wanes, it's because the couple is a little bored and they're not doing enough fun things together because we need a little bit of dopamine. We need a little bit of cortisol producing activities that we do together to ignite the chemistry and the spark again. You know, so it's just your level of what is your belief system around commitment and

Usually when the passion wanes, it's because the couple is a little bored and they're not doing enough fun things together because we need a little bit of dopamine. We need a little bit of cortisol producing activities that we do together to ignite the chemistry and the spark again. You know, so it's just your level of what is your belief system around commitment and

Look, I really believe that, you know, it's a beautiful thing to see the potential in someone and to see them as I mean, look, there's been there's lots of stories of older women like in their 70s who said, you know, I've had many conversations.

Look, I really believe that, you know, it's a beautiful thing to see the potential in someone and to see them as I mean, look, there's been there's lots of stories of older women like in their 70s who said, you know, I've had many conversations.

Look, I really believe that, you know, it's a beautiful thing to see the potential in someone and to see them as I mean, look, there's been there's lots of stories of older women like in their 70s who said, you know, I've had many conversations.

many I would say like six conversations with women who said you know I met my husband and he was poor like he had nothing but I knew that he was like really meant for something and I really wanted to be the person behind that now you know that happened so seeing potential is an amazing thing and I think because when I use that example because I think women fall into that trap more of like falling in love with potential so it's a beautiful thing to see someone's potential

many I would say like six conversations with women who said you know I met my husband and he was poor like he had nothing but I knew that he was like really meant for something and I really wanted to be the person behind that now you know that happened so seeing potential is an amazing thing and I think because when I use that example because I think women fall into that trap more of like falling in love with potential so it's a beautiful thing to see someone's potential

many I would say like six conversations with women who said you know I met my husband and he was poor like he had nothing but I knew that he was like really meant for something and I really wanted to be the person behind that now you know that happened so seeing potential is an amazing thing and I think because when I use that example because I think women fall into that trap more of like falling in love with potential so it's a beautiful thing to see someone's potential

But it's also a dangerous thing. Oh, I see what he could be, but what's actually really in front of me is a train wreck. And I'm not, I don't want to see that.

But it's also a dangerous thing. Oh, I see what he could be, but what's actually really in front of me is a train wreck. And I'm not, I don't want to see that.

But it's also a dangerous thing. Oh, I see what he could be, but what's actually really in front of me is a train wreck. And I'm not, I don't want to see that.

Instead, I want to fix him, train him, change him, wait for him to change, be the inspiration for his change and be a martyr in the relationship and a total codependent that does not focus at all on me, just only focuses on him or her dysfunction. And then I'm going to be incredibly unhappy. And guess what?

Instead, I want to fix him, train him, change him, wait for him to change, be the inspiration for his change and be a martyr in the relationship and a total codependent that does not focus at all on me, just only focuses on him or her dysfunction. And then I'm going to be incredibly unhappy. And guess what?