Jillian Turecki

There's great freedom in that, but there's also a grieving process because you're grieving your childhood. You're grieving maybe the childhood that you never had. You're grieving that dynamic of, you know, perfect mom or dad coming in and just sort of like making you safe. So there's a lot of grieving in that.

But I do believe that our greatest spiritual task in life is to somehow work or fix or heal our relationship with our parents. And it can be very, very difficult. And sometimes, like I said, it's just... for some people that healing is now I know that what, if it was a very extreme situation, now I know that what they did to me was not because I'm not good. It's because of them.

But I do believe that our greatest spiritual task in life is to somehow work or fix or heal our relationship with our parents. And it can be very, very difficult. And sometimes, like I said, it's just... for some people that healing is now I know that what, if it was a very extreme situation, now I know that what they did to me was not because I'm not good. It's because of them.

But I do believe that our greatest spiritual task in life is to somehow work or fix or heal our relationship with our parents. And it can be very, very difficult. And sometimes, like I said, it's just... for some people that healing is now I know that what, if it was a very extreme situation, now I know that what they did to me was not because I'm not good. It's because of them.

And that's, that's making peace.

And that's, that's making peace.

And that's, that's making peace.

Yeah. And you know what? Yes, and just we really truly do what we can with the tools, with the emotional tools that we have. We just do. And that's how you also move on from a breakup and a hard breakup where you feel hurt. You just, you don't have to necessarily forgive. You just have to accept and let go and then maybe forgiveness will find you.

Yeah. And you know what? Yes, and just we really truly do what we can with the tools, with the emotional tools that we have. We just do. And that's how you also move on from a breakup and a hard breakup where you feel hurt. You just, you don't have to necessarily forgive. You just have to accept and let go and then maybe forgiveness will find you.

Yeah. And you know what? Yes, and just we really truly do what we can with the tools, with the emotional tools that we have. We just do. And that's how you also move on from a breakup and a hard breakup where you feel hurt. You just, you don't have to necessarily forgive. You just have to accept and let go and then maybe forgiveness will find you.

Sure, I'm sure there's just a little bit of residual, for sure. But I do feel like I'm much closer to that forgiveness. And by that, what I mean is, you know, forgiveness is a funny thing. For me, I think of it more as I'm forgetting. And I know there's this saying, you know, you can forgive but never forget. For me, it's almost the reverse.

Sure, I'm sure there's just a little bit of residual, for sure. But I do feel like I'm much closer to that forgiveness. And by that, what I mean is, you know, forgiveness is a funny thing. For me, I think of it more as I'm forgetting. And I know there's this saying, you know, you can forgive but never forget. For me, it's almost the reverse.

Sure, I'm sure there's just a little bit of residual, for sure. But I do feel like I'm much closer to that forgiveness. And by that, what I mean is, you know, forgiveness is a funny thing. For me, I think of it more as I'm forgetting. And I know there's this saying, you know, you can forgive but never forget. For me, it's almost the reverse.

It's like when I forget, when the story does not feel, when the story is not in my mind all the time, when it doesn't have a grip on me, then I kind of start to forgive because I just don't care as much. I don't care so much about the story. I don't care so much about it. And so I let go. And so that's more of my process.

It's like when I forget, when the story does not feel, when the story is not in my mind all the time, when it doesn't have a grip on me, then I kind of start to forgive because I just don't care as much. I don't care so much about the story. I don't care so much about it. And so I let go. And so that's more of my process.

It's like when I forget, when the story does not feel, when the story is not in my mind all the time, when it doesn't have a grip on me, then I kind of start to forgive because I just don't care as much. I don't care so much about the story. I don't care so much about it. And so I let go. And so that's more of my process.

Biggest lesson. Oh, there's so many. Um, That, you know, I think one of the biggest lessons that I ever learned about love is that ultimately you need someone in your corner. That's the most important thing. Like, I have, you know, friends and family members who are in marriages where I'm like, ugh. They're very content, so I'm okay because they're content.

Biggest lesson. Oh, there's so many. Um, That, you know, I think one of the biggest lessons that I ever learned about love is that ultimately you need someone in your corner. That's the most important thing. Like, I have, you know, friends and family members who are in marriages where I'm like, ugh. They're very content, so I'm okay because they're content.

Biggest lesson. Oh, there's so many. Um, That, you know, I think one of the biggest lessons that I ever learned about love is that ultimately you need someone in your corner. That's the most important thing. Like, I have, you know, friends and family members who are in marriages where I'm like, ugh. They're very content, so I'm okay because they're content.

But when I think about it, I'm like, I would never want to be in that marriage, or I would never want that person. They're so annoying. But what I've seen is that they are there for each other. Like when the crap hits the fan, like they are there for each other. And I realize that that's really what's most important. That life can be long, it can be hard, and...