Jim Murphy

Fear can accomplish a lot.

So can anger.

That can really drive people.

But the long-term effect is something that a lot of people don't want.

For example, losing inner peace and joy.

I don't tell people what to do.

I try never to tell people what to do.

I just want to help them clarify what they want most.

And this is a good example is people that are very talented.

They get caught up in what I call this competitor's trap.

It's just I'm going to be more productive because every time I achieve something, I'm getting that sort of love from like my kids are excited, my family, my coworkers, the world.

They're like, oh, great job.

I get the cheers.

And that's the trap.

is that we aren't able to think deeper about our lives.

Like, on my rocking chair or on my deathbed, what's going to be the most important thing?

And what happens to a lot of parents is they get caught up in the illusion that I just want to provide resources for my kids, like a nice house and trips to Europe or whatever it is, so they can do whatever they want with their life.

That's a very common end.

Like, what do you really want for them?

Well, I just want them to do whatever they want.