Jim Murphy

I just want them to be happy.

And so when the parent tells me that, I say, well, if you want them to be happy, I could set up a program.

It's kind of expensive, but every Friday I'll call your kid and tell him a joke at three o'clock.

Is that what you want most of them?

A little laugh once a week?

No, of course you want something much deeper, right?

And so what I tell parents is that if you want your kids to say you want your kids to live happy,

a life with amazing experiences and deep enriching relationships or learning and growing and making a difference in the world, something like that.

Well, the number one thing is for you to live that.

And for you to live that, now we've got a whole bunch of things that need to happen.

We need to clarify your life purpose.

The only way you're going to clarify your life purpose and live that purpose is we need to get rid of what's not you.

So we got to simplify your life and down to that one sentence, that one purpose for your life, get rid of what's not you and everything that you do is going to move towards that.

And in that life purpose, the way we think about it is we start with how do you want to feel in your life?

What do you value most?

Who do you value most?

Who do you want to become like?

For me, and I think for many, many people now, especially teenagers, the role models are the people that have the most transactional success, hit the most home runs, got the most followers, make the most money, that sort of thing.

But obviously the problem with that is that real success, if you have all that outward success, but your inside is filled with anxiety and stress, it's not super successful, is it?

This is a great, I hear this a lot.