Jim Murphy

But it's no problem if you don't want that goal.

Pick a smaller goal.

That's fine.

courage or self-confidence to to take that space like that's the selflessness that's that's the master of the ego that's the willingness to look foolish and understand so here's how i'll give you an example so i was at this uh playoff um pga tour playoffs in this and practiced around in the golfer and i was with the plane hundred dollars a birdie and the other two golfers birdie the first two holes now he's behind he has a short birdie putt in the third hole and he missed it

And he said, it was a short one, and he said he was nervous.

And I said, you missed that because of your ego.

And he said, what do you mean?

I said, would you have missed that in practice, your home course?

He said, probably not.

And I said, yeah, you were thinking about them, and you were concerned what they would think, and you really did not want to miss this in front of them.

And that's what caused the nervousness and the tension that caused you to miss.

Whenever you're in that moment when you're nervous and you really want something, obviously the best performance comes when you have freedom, but it's easy to get attached to that because you're like thinking, okay, this is really important.

And so we get attached to it and have tension.

So what you can do is ask yourself, what do I want more in this moment?

to be successful right here this one time or to get better at these moments.

In other words, to master my ego, to not be so caught up in what people think.

So what happens to most people is that they come to these points in their lives where they're really uncomfortable.

Maybe they're giving a speech or playing ping pong in front of a bunch of people.

It doesn't matter what it is.

If you're nervous and other people are watching, they come to those moments where they're really uncomfortable and they back away because they're too uncomfortable.