Jinger Duggar

will you just stop? You know? And he's like, Hey, let, let me, let's take a minute. Take a breath. I'm like, I can take over now. And like, just to like talk to me. And sometimes, you know, it can feel like, okay, when somebody has a critique of me or when they say something, then it's rejection and I'm rejected by you now. Oh, I'm so embarrassed. Cause I reacted that way.

Well, yeah, I should take it. Um, I should take responsibility for that action, but I should also be thankful that they said something, um, because it's not loving for you to just let me be like that, you know? And I think that that's something that we all deal with.

Well, yeah, I should take it. Um, I should take responsibility for that action, but I should also be thankful that they said something, um, because it's not loving for you to just let me be like that, you know? And I think that that's something that we all deal with.

Well, yeah, I should take it. Um, I should take responsibility for that action, but I should also be thankful that they said something, um, because it's not loving for you to just let me be like that, you know? And I think that that's something that we all deal with.

And especially in relationships, like even with other friends, you know, I want them to be able to come to me if there's something that they see or an issue or even a concern they might have, you know, to be able to talk about it genuinely and me not to be defensive. Cause I think that's our first thing as people pleasers is like, well, I wasn't doing that. Or this was my motive.

And especially in relationships, like even with other friends, you know, I want them to be able to come to me if there's something that they see or an issue or even a concern they might have, you know, to be able to talk about it genuinely and me not to be defensive. Cause I think that's our first thing as people pleasers is like, well, I wasn't doing that. Or this was my motive.

And especially in relationships, like even with other friends, you know, I want them to be able to come to me if there's something that they see or an issue or even a concern they might have, you know, to be able to talk about it genuinely and me not to be defensive. Cause I think that's our first thing as people pleasers is like, well, I wasn't doing that. Or this was my motive.

Like just hear him out and then you can talk about it. And without being reactionary, like your, your identity doesn't depend on that situation, you know, just disconnect yourself from it. Listen, hear them out. And I think that's the way that you can build genuine friendship is when you're able to confront other people about things.

Like just hear him out and then you can talk about it. And without being reactionary, like your, your identity doesn't depend on that situation, you know, just disconnect yourself from it. Listen, hear them out. And I think that's the way that you can build genuine friendship is when you're able to confront other people about things.

Like just hear him out and then you can talk about it. And without being reactionary, like your, your identity doesn't depend on that situation, you know, just disconnect yourself from it. Listen, hear them out. And I think that's the way that you can build genuine friendship is when you're able to confront other people about things.

Yeah, and I think that along those lines too, we realize like, okay, if we are getting our self-worth from what people are saying about us positively, the next second they can be saying a criticism. And like even the critics online, we all see it. Everyone sees it on social media, right? Like it doesn't matter what kind of following you have.

Yeah, and I think that along those lines too, we realize like, okay, if we are getting our self-worth from what people are saying about us positively, the next second they can be saying a criticism. And like even the critics online, we all see it. Everyone sees it on social media, right? Like it doesn't matter what kind of following you have.

Yeah, and I think that along those lines too, we realize like, okay, if we are getting our self-worth from what people are saying about us positively, the next second they can be saying a criticism. And like even the critics online, we all see it. Everyone sees it on social media, right? Like it doesn't matter what kind of following you have.

You can have somebody who likes the photo, somebody who says, that's stupid, why would you do that? And if you're just allowing that to be your self-worth, like what somebody says about you, then that's wrong as well. Like, cause if they quickly build you up, they can tear you down the next second. So don't let your identity be wrapped up in what people are saying either.

You can have somebody who likes the photo, somebody who says, that's stupid, why would you do that? And if you're just allowing that to be your self-worth, like what somebody says about you, then that's wrong as well. Like, cause if they quickly build you up, they can tear you down the next second. So don't let your identity be wrapped up in what people are saying either.

You can have somebody who likes the photo, somebody who says, that's stupid, why would you do that? And if you're just allowing that to be your self-worth, like what somebody says about you, then that's wrong as well. Like, cause if they quickly build you up, they can tear you down the next second. So don't let your identity be wrapped up in what people are saying either.

I think that's where for me, it's been helpful to see like, okay, the answer to people pleasing is people pleasing, which is just so crazy, but you're doing it. Not out of a negative desperation. You set that aside. You stop thinking, what can I get out of you? Or are you popular or famous? That's why I want to be your friend. Well, that's going to suck. That's going to lead you to bad places.

I think that's where for me, it's been helpful to see like, okay, the answer to people pleasing is people pleasing, which is just so crazy, but you're doing it. Not out of a negative desperation. You set that aside. You stop thinking, what can I get out of you? Or are you popular or famous? That's why I want to be your friend. Well, that's going to suck. That's going to lead you to bad places.

I think that's where for me, it's been helpful to see like, okay, the answer to people pleasing is people pleasing, which is just so crazy, but you're doing it. Not out of a negative desperation. You set that aside. You stop thinking, what can I get out of you? Or are you popular or famous? That's why I want to be your friend. Well, that's going to suck. That's going to lead you to bad places.

So then you start asking, how can I serve you? How can I look into this relationship? And not seeking to get anything out of it because it's so easy. Naturally, we think like, what can I get from you? And I think I went into so many relationships like that and I left disappointed because because I was like, this stinks.